So I just found out that my cousin is throwing the bridal shower alone because none of my BM would assist her. She said only one called her back to tell her she had no money to help the other 3 never even called her back. *** I mean thats a lot to put on one person. . . and not even to call her back that is so d i c k . . . .Im so upset cause I thought the girls I picked were better than that. . im just so hurt that my cousin had to feel so sad. . . . . her mother (my aunt) is helping her and so is my mother and fmil. . . but i dunno I totally am looking at my BM totally different. . . do u think i am wrong. . . i feel ahhhhh thats all.
Nlynn
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So I just found out that my cousin is throwing the bridal shower alone because none of my BM would assist her. She said only one called her back to tell her she had no money to help the other 3 never even called her back. *** I mean thats a lot to put on one person. . . and not even to call her back that is so d i c k . . . .Im so upset cause I thought the girls I picked were better than that. . im just so hurt that my cousin had to feel so sad. . . . . her mother (my aunt) is helping her and so is my mother and fmil. . . but i dunno I totally am looking at my BM totally different. . . do u think i am wrong. . . i feel ahhhhh thats all.
None of my BM are helping my sister out either with my bridal shower. They have not even called her to offer assistance or help her out with $. My sister is doing it all by herself. It would be nice if they helped her. I don't know what is customary.
MrsB2BE
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I don't think you are wrong for feeling that way - Even if they cannot assist financially there are other things that can be done
Just be thankful and grateful tht your cousin is taking the lead role to make sure your shower is a success. I would suggest maybe doing or giving her something special
LB and DC
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that is terrible! your poor cousin - at least you know she is a great BM!! i am sure you will have a wonderful shower no matter what.
for her!!!
DananTodd
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I will say this.
ANYTIME I have been asked to be a BM< financial problems or not, I have ALWAYS chipped in as much as I could, whether it was monetary, or wrapping favors,helping the bride out, etc. Thats what BM's are suppoesd to do!! It pizzes me off when I hear about brides that have some stinky BM's,, because it s u c k s!! I'm sorry to hear that...just keep it in your back pocket. I would also skimp on their gifts a little bit too...I'm a biatch though...
LuckiestGirl
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I am actually paying for her make-up and hair for the wedding, she got a better present than the rest of the girls, I also order a wedding album for her as well as got her a hotel suit for the night of my wedding . . . .
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no one called to help either. IN FACT my mom and mil threw the bridal shower. None of the 7 of them would have thought to even pick up the phone. I understand your anger. When I initally asked the girls I should have included a list of duties including the bridal shower but I didn't. Hindsight is 20/20....
Why is it that people just DON'T THINK?? It is so frustrating. To think all the work I did for the three other weddings I was in....
ErinC0119
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I hear ya!!! My mom and sister are doing everything. I did pick some useless girls!!! Here are some
SusiBtoM
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Three cheers for your cousin for having the moxie to do this on her own.
SHAME SHAME on your BM's. What is it with BMs these days ? Do thye think all they have to do is show up in a pretty dress the day of the wedding.
My sis is my only BM, and I am helping her with my shower. My FMIL will help financially, because at 82 and in so-so health, this is the best she can do, and it is highly appreciated. My mom is deceased. I can't let my sis do this on her own. It is a lot of work.
MJDoc12
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that is terrible! i'd be so !
i only had 2 girls for my BP, and thank god they handled all the details together and my mom helped pay.
i think you need to have a talk with the other BMs. i'm a little evil, but i would kind of make it like
'well you know, my BM so-and-so didn't want to have to involve me, but she had no choice cause she is really busting her assss to do this on a budget....and since you have done nothing to help--i have to step in.'
the guilt trip can go a long ways.
hope this gets resolved!
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It's wrong that they aren't offering help...not all help has to be financial help. They could totally offer to decorate or wrap favors or something if they are tight on cash... I don't know if it's just that they don't know about helping out or if people just can't be bothered but I'm sorry you have to deal with this! You don't need this....
