BM Vent

i have one BM in my bridal party that i feel like in the past few months- has no tiem for anything- i barely talk to her and she has fallen off the chart- havent seen her- and calling her- haha she doesnt answer the phone

im at the point where i feel like telling her goodbye--- she just hasnt been afriend to me lately

am i wrong for doing this? if the wedding wasnt involved- we wouldnt be friends- we havent spoken to eachother--- so do i give it the boot or try to talk to her?

Try talking to her and express your concerns. If this doesnt work, get rid of her, pronto!

I went through this but unfortunately it was too close to the wedding. Now this girl is in all my photos.

I agree. Talk with her first. She might be not realize that you'd like her to be more involved. Perhaps she's uptight about the money etc and is avoiding things? Who knows? But to preserve any future relations and generally avoid over reacting and all the misery that comes with that, calmly approach it first before kicking her out.

I am an older bride in my early 40's bso almost ALL of my BM's are too busy for me with their work schedules and young kids. I've cried over it , feel cheated and ignored but that's the way the ball bounces at this age.

Good luck. Wish you the best. And, try not to take it personally as I am learning not to even though I'd like things to be different.

i think it's worth talking to/about... see what's been going on... maybe it's work related, family related, etc... she must have a logical reason as to why she's been avoiding you.. and if she isn't willing to be upfront about it and you still have some time before your wedding, then just find a replacement... that happens all the time, so don't feel bad.

good luck!