BM VENT (kinda long)
I seem to be venting a lot lately - I swear, I am a very nice person and usually do not get so mad! ![]()
Most of my BMs are not local - 4/5 live out of state, only 1 lives on LI. Well this past weekend was my shower, and 3 of them were there...my MOH came up from Baltimore (sister), 1 BM came from south jersey, and the one that's local - I knew the 3 of them with my mom were the ones putting the whole things together, the other 2 (1 in FL, 1 in Chicago) I never expected to be involved at all.
Well it was a great shower! But i was just talking to my mom, and she said 'I don't know if anyone told you, or if you saw the invitation, but the shower was from Kim too'...she's my BM that lives in Florida.
so then I got the story, how MOH emailed everyone and said what they were doing, and asked the Florida BM and Chicago BM if they could contribute something, as fellow BMs.... Florida BM said of course, she regretted not being there, but Chicago BM answered with 'Sorry, I'm a teacher and I'm poor'. and that was it.
NOW - all fellow teachers do not get pissed at me just yet, of COURSE I understand, and know she gets strapped for $$ and I would never expect her to shell out something she couldn't. I'm not that petty.![]()
Here's the backstory - Chicago BM told me she is coming here a full week before my wedding, with her bf (soon to be FH), as a mini vacation and to help me with whatever I need. They will be staying in a hotel every night, in Brooklyn or Manhattan..... On top of that, they are going to Paris for a week next month. Sure, the bf may be covering more of the costs then she, I don't know, but all of my BMs knew all of this....so for her to just say she has no $$ and doesn't want to contribute to my shower, they were taken pretty aback considering her plans for the next 2 months. And, well, so am I now that I found out about it....which is something my mom totally didn't have to tell me. I mean, I made my closest friends my BMs, and as one, you mean to tell me you can travel the world and stay in hotels etc etc within the month of my wedding, but you can't find some $$ to put toward a shower for me? Which only meant the other girls had to put in more of their own $$ then if she helped out.
To top things off, this is the BM that bought tickets to a Mets game for the night before my wedding!!! And not for me to go to, for her and the bf.....I'm like - um, have you ever heard of a rehearsal dinner?![]()
She's selling the tickets, but still.
Ironically, that happened only a couple days after she told MOH she wasn't giving any $$ to the shower, so when I vented to MOH and mom about it, they were fuming but couldn't say anything!![]()
Apparently the bf is going to propose when in Paris, and I know I'll be in that wedding.....so I don't feel bad if I don't go out of my way to be the perfect BM.![]()
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K, that's my vent. Everything worked out, I got a terrific shower and it's not something I'm going to harp on - she doesn't even know I know about this. Just needed to get the frustration out.
Thanks for listening!![]()
Most of my BMs are not local - 4/5 live out of state, only 1 lives on LI. Well this past weekend was my shower, and 3 of them were there...my MOH came up from Baltimore (sister), 1 BM came from south jersey, and the one that's local - I knew the 3 of them with my mom were the ones putting the whole things together, the other 2 (1 in FL, 1 in Chicago) I never expected to be involved at all.
Well it was a great shower! But i was just talking to my mom, and she said 'I don't know if anyone told you, or if you saw the invitation, but the shower was from Kim too'...she's my BM that lives in Florida.
so then I got the story, how MOH emailed everyone and said what they were doing, and asked the Florida BM and Chicago BM if they could contribute something, as fellow BMs.... Florida BM said of course, she regretted not being there, but Chicago BM answered with 'Sorry, I'm a teacher and I'm poor'. and that was it.
NOW - all fellow teachers do not get pissed at me just yet, of COURSE I understand, and know she gets strapped for $$ and I would never expect her to shell out something she couldn't. I'm not that petty.
Here's the backstory - Chicago BM told me she is coming here a full week before my wedding, with her bf (soon to be FH), as a mini vacation and to help me with whatever I need. They will be staying in a hotel every night, in Brooklyn or Manhattan..... On top of that, they are going to Paris for a week next month. Sure, the bf may be covering more of the costs then she, I don't know, but all of my BMs knew all of this....so for her to just say she has no $$ and doesn't want to contribute to my shower, they were taken pretty aback considering her plans for the next 2 months. And, well, so am I now that I found out about it....which is something my mom totally didn't have to tell me. I mean, I made my closest friends my BMs, and as one, you mean to tell me you can travel the world and stay in hotels etc etc within the month of my wedding, but you can't find some $$ to put toward a shower for me? Which only meant the other girls had to put in more of their own $$ then if she helped out.
To top things off, this is the BM that bought tickets to a Mets game for the night before my wedding!!! And not for me to go to, for her and the bf.....I'm like - um, have you ever heard of a rehearsal dinner?
Ironically, that happened only a couple days after she told MOH she wasn't giving any $$ to the shower, so when I vented to MOH and mom about it, they were fuming but couldn't say anything!
Apparently the bf is going to propose when in Paris, and I know I'll be in that wedding.....so I don't feel bad if I don't go out of my way to be the perfect BM.
K, that's my vent. Everything worked out, I got a terrific shower and it's not something I'm going to harp on - she doesn't even know I know about this. Just needed to get the frustration out.
Thanks for listening!
