My sister is one of my BM's, and she is picky about what she wears. So I basically let her pick the BM dress from dresses that she saw online (she is out of state), just telling her that it should be t-length and black. She picked something that she really liked based on the pic online, and she said that she didn't need to try it on because it was beautiful. She ordered it online, and my other girls got the same dress from a local bridal shop...great service from best bridal prices .com by the way... and my sis/BM received hers this week. She hates it because it is low cut, and asked me 'you don't mind if I wear a different dress for the reception, do you?' I said that I don't mind, and that she should have the dress altered to bring up the neck line so she is more comfortable wearing the dress..
Why did I go through the process to let her pick the dress when she isn't going to wear it at the rh? I thought it was the nice thing to do, and now she doesn't want to wear it? I guess you can't please all of the people all of the time. Has anyone ever heard of a BM wearing a diff dress at the reception?
Im a Pepper
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I agree that you can't please everyone all the time but this is, after all, your wedding and she is your BM. She chose the dress and she should wear it the entire day. I think you've been laid back and diplomatic enough to let her choose her own dress and the least she can do is just grin and bear it. One of my BM's also told me she wanted to change after the ceremony. I was a bit offended because I thought, if I were a BM in her wedding I'd be happy to wear whatever she wanted me to wear. I did tell her that I prefer she doesn't change the dress but maybe if she wants to change the shoes to be more comfortable for dancing that's completely fine!
I would tell her that I want her to wear the dress the whole time. But I think you're being very kind in telling her that it's OK to change!
flairforfashion
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I never heard of a BM wearing a different dress. I would want her in the dress all night.
Future Mrs Roo
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uh no, she chose the dress, now she has to stick with it. Who does she think she is, the bride?
FutureMrsG
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IMO she should wear the same dress all night- She had the chance to go try it on BEFORE ordering it. I have never seen a BM change for the reception.
MaggieLuvsJoe
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she's the one that picked it, she should wear it all night. I've never heard of this before.
Felice917
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I thought, maybe I am being a bridezilla for thinking that BM's should probably wear the dress the whole time. I told all of the BM's they can do whatever they want for the shoes, hair, make up, jewlery, stockings, etc...so I didnt' think I was being all that difficult. Thanks for your support ladies, at least I know I am not crazy!
flairforfashion
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Yea, you are def being very reasonable. I would just say to her 'look, it's not fair if you are the only BM wearing a different dress and the others in the same dress.' And then from there say that for pictures and to keep the girls uniform, that you would appreciate her wearing the dress all night.
