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BMs that get engaged

Lisa982006 Posted:

BMs that get engaged

cjb88 Posted:

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Im going to be a BM in one of my friend's weddings... then i got engaged, so we started thinking about a date...she is getting married NOV 05... i was thinking about Oct 05, but then decided to wait until April 06, because I think that it would have been insane to have two weddings back to back... i wouldnt have been able to help her out as much and vice versa... i dont want to miss out on that... so for that and other reasons we decided to wait until April... but that was entirely our choice

so i pretty much didnt want to have our two weddings so close... it just wouldnt have been the same... but sometimes those things happen... and if our weddings did end up that close together I still would have had her in my wedding and be in hers... she has been my friend since HS and I would never want to miss out on that experience... plus now you can do planning together... visit florists together etc...

hope this makes sense and helps a bit
MsKitty1274 Posted:

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My opinion...talk about it now. Tell her your concerns, but try not to come off as a 'primadonna diva'. Not implying that you are, but I know when it comes to things affecting our own weddings, we have the ability to become 'other people'

I am sure she has been asked a million times when the wedding will be, but just feel her out. See if there are any significant dates to them, times of year, days of the week.

And not to down play the role of a bridesmaid, but it SHOULD not affect her planning to be in your wedding.

Good Luck!
-Jill
psf80 Posted:

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One of my BM got engaged a little bit after I did. Her wedding is two months before mine, and yet when she asked me to be a BM I agreed. I just couldn't picture her not being there on my special day, and she said she couldn't picture her wedding without me. I think it all depends on what you're comfortable with, but in all honesty, I think you can still be in each other's bridal parties.

VogueBride Posted:

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I would talk to her about it. bring up finances and overall planning. there are other things less costly griends can do to be involved in weddings...so maybe that would be good. but if she already said yes to being in your wedding..chances are she already had the idea of getting married around that time so she might have already taken that into consideration.

leese Posted:

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if you can talk about it now, i would.

i got engaged two weeks after one of my BM's and she hasn't set a date or anything yet... but i think she'll probably do it next january.

to me, as long as it isn't a week before or two weeks after mine, it's all good.
JacnRob729 Posted:

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my fh and i are both in our friends wedding on uly 3rd. He is actually the best man. There is no way that we would not be in each others wedding. But thats us. Its different for everyone

kissy27 Posted:

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my MOH (kiddo115) got engaged 6 months after me & I could not see my wedding day without her in it...She is getting married 4 months after me & now I was asked to be her MOH...We find it actually helpful that we are both planning a wedding for the same year bc it helps us to bounce ideas off of each other...Plus who else understands why you are so crazy!!! So from my experience, I don't think you should not have each other in the bridal parties just bc you are planning a wedding in the same time frame!

beautyq115 Posted:

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This is kind of the situation my FI and I have not a BM but a potential GM. One of my FI's friends got engaged 1 month after us and they will be getting married 2 weeks before us. My FI is not sure if he will ask him because they may even be on their honeymoon when we get married!

sarahbelle Posted:

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It seems like you can both be in each others parties, but you should definitely talk now to see what she has in mind.

DCSAAB06 Posted:

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I happen to be in my friends wedding party as she is in mine and our weddings are 4 months apart. We decided that we would not exchange gifts, for the wedding, and would just pay for bridal shower gifts and so on.
We figured we would end up giving back what she would give me and vice versa. That may be option.
hmpena Posted:

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I am in this situation also. When FI proposed to me, we found out that my sister was already thinking about getting married in July 2006. She wasn't engaged yet and hadn't officially set the date. We decided to get married on Jan. '06 because of FI health problems ( we were originally shooting for Oct. '05). Now she is officially engaged and getting married July '06. It doesn't matter to me and I am happy for her. I even let her know that if this was too stressful for her, she did not have to be my MOH. She said she woudl still do it. I couldn't imagine her not being in the wedding and since I am her MOH, I end up sending her email about things I am finding for her.

coxmandi Posted:

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My MOH and I knew we were going to be getting married around the same time. I got engaged first, and FH and I are getting married in March. Luckily she wanted a warmer wedding and hers is in May.

I think it works out well because we can plan together and think of ideas together.

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