Are we obligated to have the boyfriend of our BM in the wedding????
My BM says he is shy & she would feel uncomfortablee sitting at the bridal table & he in the audience with no one to talk to
If my FH does not have a prob with it maybe -- i wanted yr feedback????
jill13bean
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there is no reason to feel obligated... you never know what if they break up
it is your wedding so he is shy.. it is not for you to worry about he can still sit at the BP table
Boop2704
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You shouldn't have him in your wedding because you feel bad he'll be sitting alone. If you are close with him than definiteley, if you want him in the BP, why not. But don't feel obligated to have him. It is your day and your bridal party is supposed to be people that are very special and close to you. If he is that uncomfortable and shy, make sure he meets people he will be sitting with before the wedding comes, or allow him to sit at the BP table with his GF. Or have the BP just sit at the regular tables so they can be with their significant others.JMO!
SteffieSunshine1
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We aren't having a dais for that reason. Just the sweetheart table, so my BMs can sit with their boyfriends who aren't in my wedding party.
janet
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i had a problem with my bp i had alot of girls and he had no one it turned out that alot of the guys where either friends of mine and or family of mine... but see how the guy first feels about it and then decide... i think it would be ok though! ets; i had a bridal party table and at that table they sat with the guest!
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You shouldn't feel obligated. If that's what you want to do & you're comfortable with it, then by all means....We're having a sweetheart table w/the 2 closet tables around us for the BP & their dates that way nobody has to feel uncomfortable.
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That's a terrible reason to ahve someone in the bridal party. I'd never do it. it's ludicrious IMO. Are you attached to there being a dais? What some couples do is have a bridal party table or more, with the BP and their guests. So at my sisters wedding, all the members of the bridal aprty sat with therir significant others. We weren't even all at a BP table. It's not a MUST to have the BP and only the BP together. A compromise would be to have tabled with guests...or they cna just be intermingled and seated where you'd put them if they weren't in the BP.
LadyPrincess
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Thanks so much ladies
BYW -- what is a dais table?? sweetheart table ???
nov.bride
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I think that you should do whatever you want- it's your wedding. If you decide not to ask- you can invite the boyfriend to your cocktail hour in the bridal suite & seat them @ your bridal party table or like ohters said do the sweetheart table. JMO
nov.bride
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The dais is the table for the whole bridal party to be seated at. A sweetheart table is for just you and FH.
LadyPrincess
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THanks a bunch for info....
Pookiesangel
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Posted by SteffieSunshine1
We aren't having a dais for that reason. Just the sweetheart table, so my BMs can sit with their boyfriends who aren't in my wedding party.
That's what we are doing too, so FBIL, my MOH (sister) & One of my BM's can sit with their respective dates..
butterfly20
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i agree, you can allow him to sit with her without him being in the bridal party
fallinlove04
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you are definitely not obligated. i know people including myself who were in bridal parties without their significant others.
just remember that you will have these pictures forever and you don't want them to be 'ruined' later by a bad breakup. Imagine if everytime your friend sees the pictures she huffs or sighs b/c he is in them?
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I wouldn't put him in the BP but I don't see why he can't sit at the BP table for the reception. I went to a wedding once where my FH was in the BP and I had to sit at table by myself with no one I knew. I really S-U-C-K-E-D.
sammi102
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There is definitely no obligation!!!
One of the GM's is dating my old roomate from college and we are no longer friends, she's not going to be in the bridal party...
I think it will be fine. They can sit at the table together at the reception.
no stress bride
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Posted by jill13bean
there is no reason to feel obligated... you never know what if they break up
it is your wedding so he is shy.. it is not for you to worry about he can still sit at the BP table
I agree we are having bridesmaid without their boyfriends in the party and they are fine with plus we are having them all sit together and me and my fiance are stilling at our own table!! JMO
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you shouldnt feel obligated to have her b/f in the wedding - you really dont even have to invite him if he is so shy he couldnt function by himself - i think she is looking for a reason to have him there ( maybe he is trying to back out of comming) personally i think it was wrong of her to ask JMO
