BP advice needed (lil long)

BP advice needed (lil long)

hey gals!
need some advice:
im a BM in a friends upcoming wedding, (she is already married with child but wanted to have her wedding day) anyway...she didnt decide until about april that she was going to have her wedding this august, giving 4 months notice...she asked me to be a BM and i accepted knowing it would be a little tight but wanting to be a part of her special day (i asked her to be in my BP as well, but my wedding may be changing to DW but thats a whole other annoyance) anyway
the dress was 275 which i found a bit high but didnt complain b/c its cute and i know how it is to be a bride
problem is she said hair and MU is 100 each so costing 200 w/o tip and we HAVE to use her person and my problem is #1 having to use her person and #2, now she is saying we have to have our hair all the same way low messy bun(which other BM's are complainging they dont want to do)...
now heres the questions:
did you ever hear of having to use the person the bride hires, and if so, did you ever here of spening so much money on it andbeing told u have to all have your hair one way??
to me it seems like asking or demanding alot, would love your input!!!

thanks girls!

Re: BP advice needed (lil long)

You definitely don't need to use the same person to do your hair and makeup. I know that it can be pricey but it should be up to you not her. I have 8 bm's and they are all on there own the day of my wedding unless they want to use the same person I am using. I don't want them to feel obligated to use the same person especially if it's not in there budget.

Re: BP advice needed (lil long)

Hmmm...i guess my friends were all low maintenance Brides... I have been in 5 weddings, none ever told me that i had to get my hair done, that is usually assumed that you will on your own or I went with them somewhere fairly reasonable one i did it myself, and I always did my own makeup just because i don't like anyone doing mine (although i am splurging for myself on MY wedding day :)....but this is also going back a few years....1996-2001....when things weren't so wedding crazy like they are now...my friends are shocked at all the choices I have as a bride now! You could always back out of things using saving money for your own wedding as an excuse...or perhaps have a bridal party meeting to discuss the demands she is making and approach her as a group about how you guys feel....good luck!

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i agree! you should not be told who to use the day of. Besides isn't that one makeup person and hair person going to be a little over whelmed with the entire wedding party? I would just tell her, that under the circumstances, its not affordable to use her person. You will agree that no carzy makeup, but that your saving for a wedding to, and its unrealistic to require you all to have the same exact hair style. I would tell her you'll agree to either an up-do, or a bun style.. or even if she wanted everyones hair down.. but since when did being someones BM become such requirements!!! I think shes allowed to request shoe color, and dress... thats it!

Re: BP advice needed (lil long)

i feel the same as the other girls......you def shouldnt have to use her ppl....and makeup is def not a must.....talk to your friend about all of this...i thnk its a bit much