BP Dilemma: Advice Please (kinda long)
Ladies, just wanted your advice on a bit of a sticky situation concerning my BP.
FH and I orginally decided we were going to have a small bridal party. I have two sisters and a brother. FH has a sister and a brother and one best friend he has known for years. We were going to leave it at that. I have too many cousins and girlfriends to start getting into that and choosing 'one over the other.'
Well, FH's sister is getting married later on this month. She asked me to be in her BP right before FH and I got engaged. I still do not know her very well (she has been living in FL for most of the time we've been together.) She is having TEN girls in her BP and I told her please not to feel like she has to ask me. She said, 'But I know how important you are to my brother and you will be family soon.' I thought that was sweet and if that's what she wanted, of course I would be in her BP.
NOW.... this FSIL has made it pretty clear that she feels her FH and her SIL (married to my FH's brother) should also be in our BP. I hardly know her or her FH. Also, FH doesn't even really LIKE his SIL... I don't think I want them in my BP. I have nothing against them and I know I will grow to love them all and get to know them better through the years, but I feel if we are adding to the BP, I want it to be one of MY friends or cousins. As it is, my one sister lives in Germany, my FSIL is in FL and it's just my other sister who will be doing everything. BUT the FSIL has really been pushing FH into this... she keeps insisting that 'we're all family.' They have a small family and FH is VERY close with his sister, but I feel she is being pushy. Just because she is having like 17 people in her BP doesn't mean I should.
Am I being bridezilla??? Should I just suck it up and have them in the BP.... I really wanted people that I know well... and I didn't want a large BP. Also, people are telling me I should do it because we shouldn't cause any anomosity or start a fight. other say, it's perfectly fine not to have the inlaws!!! I am torn, it's not like I don't like them, but I would rather have my friend from HS that i've known for 15 years rather than the future inlaws that I barely know.... I thought just having siblings would be easy...but now one is getting married and getting pissed....
THOUGHTS and advice appreciated....
TIA!!!
FH and I orginally decided we were going to have a small bridal party. I have two sisters and a brother. FH has a sister and a brother and one best friend he has known for years. We were going to leave it at that. I have too many cousins and girlfriends to start getting into that and choosing 'one over the other.'
Well, FH's sister is getting married later on this month. She asked me to be in her BP right before FH and I got engaged. I still do not know her very well (she has been living in FL for most of the time we've been together.) She is having TEN girls in her BP and I told her please not to feel like she has to ask me. She said, 'But I know how important you are to my brother and you will be family soon.' I thought that was sweet and if that's what she wanted, of course I would be in her BP.
NOW.... this FSIL has made it pretty clear that she feels her FH and her SIL (married to my FH's brother) should also be in our BP. I hardly know her or her FH. Also, FH doesn't even really LIKE his SIL... I don't think I want them in my BP. I have nothing against them and I know I will grow to love them all and get to know them better through the years, but I feel if we are adding to the BP, I want it to be one of MY friends or cousins. As it is, my one sister lives in Germany, my FSIL is in FL and it's just my other sister who will be doing everything. BUT the FSIL has really been pushing FH into this... she keeps insisting that 'we're all family.' They have a small family and FH is VERY close with his sister, but I feel she is being pushy. Just because she is having like 17 people in her BP doesn't mean I should.
Am I being bridezilla??? Should I just suck it up and have them in the BP.... I really wanted people that I know well... and I didn't want a large BP. Also, people are telling me I should do it because we shouldn't cause any anomosity or start a fight. other say, it's perfectly fine not to have the inlaws!!! I am torn, it's not like I don't like them, but I would rather have my friend from HS that i've known for 15 years rather than the future inlaws that I barely know.... I thought just having siblings would be easy...but now one is getting married and getting pissed....
THOUGHTS and advice appreciated....
TIA!!!
