I have 10 BM and 10 GM...only like 4 BM help me with anything....I feel only obligated to give them gifts....do I have to give gifts or can I give these four something in private???
fdnybride163
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you can do something privately as long as you make a statement saying that you are only giving it to them.
BUT I think that this could start some major issues if word gets around that you only gave them presents and not the others.
i think you should give them all a gift, then later on give the other girls something extra after the wedding is over, just to say thanks for helping so much
Jesebelle
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Give everyone something inexpensive, then privately give those girls something extra, with a TY note saying how much they helped you and how you value it and here is a gift to thank them for their extra effort. Check out americanbridal. They seem to have $10 and $5 sales from time to time.
Yankeeelove
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I've always received a gift from every bridal party I was in, I would give them something inexpensive, but you should def give them something IMO. Sorry
VCanizalez
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Give everyone something 'cheap'.... then to the people who are helping u a lot, get them NICE gift...
JandS
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Posted by Jesebelle
Give everyone something inexpensive, then privately give those girls something extra, with a TY note saying how much they helped you and how you value it and here is a gift to thank them for their extra effort. Check out americanbridal. They seem to have $10 and $5 sales from time to time.
this!
DCgirl82
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IMO you have to give a gift to all of them since they are in your BP but if you want to give the other girls something more
spdy540
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most of my girls do the bare minimum but one of my maids of honor is always there so I called her to my apt one day and we gave her a pearl and diamond ring for all the additional help that she gives us. Bue everyone is getting a gift just for the simple fact that they have to take off some days and show up (I bought most of my girls dresses)and they had to purchase accessories
summerbride2580
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I think that you should tell them how you feel in a nice way. That is not right that they are not trying to help out. I had the same problem with my BM's and I told them they need to chip in more but some BM's think they just have to show up which is not the case.
evita2781
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most of BM's aren't doing much and my sisters (MOH's) are taking care of everything so of course they're getting something better. I'll probably get all the girls a wristlet and my sisters will get a bag
ourwedding9510
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Sorry I had to crash...
Only 1 of my Bridesmaids really helped me out with things for the wedding. My Matron of Honor helped but that was only 1 day. I gave gifts to all of the BMs and I gave the same gifts but I wrote something special for that BM that really helped and DH and I are going to get her something special for her birthday. I also didn't have all my BMs come on my Bach Party so those who did I included a picture of us from the Bach Party in a nice picture frame.
