Here's the thing my FH has 3 sisters and I asked the 2 that are civil to me to be in the wedding because he wanted me to include them. But, we have been engaged for a while now and planning this wedding and they never even call me to say hi or ask how things are going. I'm going through a lot right now (family stuff), and everyone else in my BP has called me to see how I'm doing and see if I need help. I haven't asked anyone for help and don't really plan to, but having them all call and offer and check on me really made me feel good. Now FH's sisters never ever call me. I usually am the one to call them and invite them places and see how they are doing. Whenever they want to invite me somewhere they ask him to ask me. I don't understand why because they all have my number and email. I'm sorry if im ranting I just feel like I don't want bridesmaids who don't even give a darn about me or my wedding. I don't want to sound like a brat, but I am just really upset over this and I want them to not be bridesmaids. How do I express this to them? I asked them by sending them a card like I did everyone else. I never got a chance to take them to lunch they were always busy. Please girls give me some advice! TIA and sorry so long.
lolalovesacroat
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I feel that I would just ignore them. They are in the BP for your FH. It is an honor for him that they are in your BP. I wouldn't want to put my FH in that situation, bc regardless he is involved.
I think if you were to say something they might take it the wrong way like you are being a bridezilla or something, but I know that you are not at all.
They are 100% wrong that they don't call you to see how you are doing during these tough times with your family, but since it seems you have a rocky relationship with his sister's it doesn't suprise me they haven't and prob wont ever call you.
deanna225
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i really think u need to sit and talk to ur fh and tell him how u feel, what tehy r doing is wrong and rude, and i don't blame u to be mad and upset. im going through something like this with one on my fh friends, who is in the bp. so i know how u feel. but i would def talk to fh about this and take it from there. hope everything works out.
Iluvpoodles
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Well it seems like you're not really close with them. Did FH make a big deal to include them in the BP? Maybe they feel akward or something calling you to ask you directly to do stuff. I would def mention something to him about how you feel. It may be they're not interested in a friend type relationship and in the BP for your FH more so than you.
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First, I'd talk to FH and see if he has any opinions as to what the problem might be. Maybe he can point you in the right direction in this situaton.
If not, I'd just ignore their behavior. If they are going to be your FSILs, you're going to have to deal with them foreverrrr, so it's probably best to start practicing ignoring them now!
HTH!
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Thanks for the advice girls. I feel so bad about even having to post this. I hate all the drama! It's so not me. I also am kinda hesitant to talk to FH about it because he is so close to them. He usually just has a 'reason' for all the crap that they do. Thanks again.
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Posted by Iluvpoodles
Well it seems like you're not really close with them. Did FH make a big deal to include them in the BP? Maybe they feel akward or something calling you to ask you directly to do stuff. I would def mention something to him about how you feel. It may be they're not interested in a friend type relationship and in the BP for your FH more so than you.
He didn't make a big deal about it. But I know that he wanted to involve them. I wish I wasn't such a mush, I really should have just not asked them. Now I'm stuck sort of.
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I would sit down and talk to FH about your expecations about there involvement from here on out and also I would want to know what his expecations. Maybe you could still keep them as BM's and just not have them be involved. If your not expecting them to do anything it may help things. If I was very hurt I would keep it very minimal. Maybe like heres where to buy the dress, this is when the reheral is, this is where/when you need to be for the big day. but, I am a little brat sometimes lol.
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A close friend ha the same problems with her FH's sisters. She had 3 SIL and had to put them in the wedding. That's where the problems started. The day of her wedding they showed up 2 hrs late to her house and made the photographer wait. To top it all off they both wore Large princess crown tiaras in thier hair knowing the bride hated it.
Now they hardly talk. They do call her, invite her places etc.. They are basically making her life a living he'll and her husband wont do anything about it because it is his sisters.
Iluvpoodles
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Posted by Iluvpoodles
Well it seems like you're not really close with them. Did FH make a big deal to include them in the BP? Maybe they feel akward or something calling you to ask you directly to do stuff. I would def mention something to him about how you feel. It may be they're not interested in a friend type relationship and in the BP for your FH more so than you.
He didn't make a big deal about it. But I know that he wanted to involve them. I wish I wasn't such a mush, I really should have just not asked them. Now I'm stuck sort of.
Don't feel bad. It is what it is. As long as you have him and others who can help you with planning and such, that's all that matters. I wouldn't go out of my way if I was you to keep asking them to do stuff for the wedding. Just let them know when they have to go for the dresses and stuff like that and if they want to know anything have them just go through FH like that have been...
