bridal party issues- what would you do?

So, I'm really stressed out about my shower. One of my bms is OOT (CA) and being a pain- she didn't check w/anyone when she booked her flight out to NY (which, btw, is the weekend of her family reunion)- and she wants to have the bridal shower and the b-party the same weekend she's in NY- around her schedule! I feel very slighted by this, especially since the week she is coming out is a horrible weekend for me- i know i will be swamped at work! here is what is bothering me- i know one bm is complaining about the cost of the shower, and the one from CA is saying she won't pay for her part of the shower bc she won't be coming.

My feelings are really hurt- this is supposed to be a day about me, but i feel like my feelings are not being taken into account- now, i can't say anything to these girls bc i don't want to cause problems within the bp (as other ppl in the bp told me what they said- which also really hurt my feelings). At this point, I just don't want a shower, bc i feel like i'm just causing stress in other people's lives, and the shower is upsetting me.

Would you say something to the girls in your bp if this happened to you?

Is this BM your MOH? If not, you should speak to your MOH and let her know how you are feeling and what your schedule is like. You are the bride and your bridal events should go around your schedule. I hope that I helped you out.

~dancer~

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Posted by dancerandchef

Is this BM your MOH? If not, you should speak to your MOH and let her know how you are feeling and what your schedule is like. You are the bride and your bridal events should go around your schedule. I hope that I helped you out.

~dancer~

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I agree. this is about you as the bride. The fact that the CA one didn't check and is wanting everything to work around her schedule is just not right.

Meg, I sent you an FM

Why don't you have it on a weekend convenient for you and if she can't come tough! It IS about you and should be scheduled for a time when you will enjoy it - not her!