Bridal party/shower question...

jes81276 Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:23 PM

Bridal party/shower question...

If you have an out of town BM who is not able to attend the shower, do you think she should still be expected to split the cost of the shower evenly (the bridal party is hosting the shower). I am interested to get some opinions on this

jax2718 Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:25 PM

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i would think so

jada2destiny Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:26 PM

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I had a BM from North Carolina and she wired the same amount to my MOH as the other girls up here gave

JCam695 Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:26 PM

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This is happening with my BMs, one is from FL and may not be able to come up for the shower and the wedding. The other BMs that are planning it did ask her for $$ and she gave it, but she complained about it and it almost got ugly between them.

I feel that being a BM has financial responsibilites, but I know not everyone agrees.

Its definitely a tough call. I think my answer is YES, she should still contribute.

donegal419 Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:26 PM

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hmm... not sure... it can't hurt to ask... she may feel bad that sdhe can't be there and may want to contribute.

but then on the other hand, i just hosted the shower for my FSIL.... her mom is passed so my FH and i wanted to host her shower. i spent TONS of money, time cooking and cleaning, etc. and the only other person that helped out was one of her MOH who contributed a lot. there are 8 other bridesmaids and no one else even offered to help split the cost... eergggh!!!! So, I would defintiely ask if she's able to contribute... she very well might want to.

stephanielyse Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:29 PM

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I think she should. I'm a BM in a wedding this summer and I can't make it to the shower, but I still put in the same amount of $$ as the other BM. That's one of the responsiblities you take on when you accept the invitation to be in the BP.

ali120206 Posted: Mar 22, 2006 09:35 PM

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Posted by stephanielyse

I think she should. I'm a BM in a wedding this summer and I can't make it to the shower, but I still put in the same amount of $$ as the other BM. That's one of the responsiblities you take on when you accept the invitation to be in the BP.

Exactly. I was in a wedding last year where I was able to make the shower while 2 girls couldn't and we all paid the same amount.

If the bridal party is paying for the shower, everyone should be responsible for paying.