Bridal Shower

JPCP4806 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:43 PM

Bridal Shower

Please tell Me that Im not the only one having a problem with my Bridal Shower? My Mother cannot come to an agreement with my maid of honor about my shower. My MOH Wants to throw me a rinky dink shower and she claims my girls cant give over 75 bucks Ea for their part of the shower... its getting closer to the wedding and they havent booked a place yet, they need invites and favors I would of liked to had my shower in Feb sometime but I think thats Shot to hell now.... Im looking at march.. and at this point i dont even want a shower. People can send me gifts thats all..

Naunie Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:45 PM

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If your girls are set to a budget, maybe one of them can offer their home for the shower?
And another can offer to cook? There are ways around budgets, it just takes more work. Way I see it, you can offer either $$ or hhelp. If you have no $$, you better be willing to help.

JPCP4806 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:49 PM

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its not budgets, MOH is just likes to make a big deal of nothing. all the other girls have no problem with giving any amount of $$.

Swan06 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:51 PM

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Atleast she's kinda working on it. I'll be lucky if I get one. I really think that people don't know what being a moh or bm is about now a days. I hope they figure out a way of working it out. Good luck

nygirl77 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:52 PM

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I love showers at people's home. They are so much fun. I told my mom I want my shower at her house - but I don't know if it will actually be there or at another relative's house. I'm curious...and I don't expect anything extravagent because that's not the way my mom is or my friends for that matter.

stephanielyse Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:53 PM

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That's the thing about a shower, you're not in control. You can't choose when it is or where or how much people will spend on it. Maybe instead of getting in your mind what the 'perfect' shower would be, you should gear up for your shower, or none at all. The point of a shower is for you to spend time with the women that are important in your life and for them to shower you with love and, yes, with gifts. But if you only want a shower for the gifts, well that's not right.

Decide what you want and talk to your MOH. If you're okay with having the shower at someone's house with homemade food and DIY decorations, let her know that. I'm sure your BP will be able to do something like that with their budget and it will be fabulous, because it will be a wonderful celebration filled with love.

Naunie Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:53 PM

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Well then- she shouldn't be speaking for everyone!
Breaks my heart when MOH goes wrong...
Maybe you (or your mom, who ever is scarier when confronted), should sit her down, give her a date, and say- hey- what can YOU give. Oh, only xx$$?,m fine- then you need to set up the decorations, or pick up the cake, etc.
Give her more tasks.
Maybe your mom could talk to the other girls by themselves?
I'm sorry this girl is making the happiest time in your life so difficult!

JPCP4806 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:56 PM

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I dont just want the shower for gifts. That doesnt matter. It just that I bend over backwards for everyone and now that its my turn I get shuut out... BP and FIL's arent that excited but when it was my Future Sis in law they were up her butt.. giving everything.. Thank god I have a Mother who is awesome and a great FH

waterspout4 Posted: Jan 21, 2006 04:19 AM

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I had to plan my own. Don't even get me started!!

Brainy29 Posted: Jan 21, 2006 08:45 AM

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MY MOH never stepped up either. My mom just told me that everything is taken care of. Thank goodness for her or I probably wouldn't have a shower either. I don't understand, if I was a MOH I would be stepping up to do my part, as my mom said, not everyone is like me. But that really pisses me off!! If they don't want the responsiblites or don't have the time, why did they accept the offer!!!

Roziw Posted: Jan 21, 2006 09:09 AM

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I could not agree with you more!

VogueBride Posted: Jan 21, 2006 09:47 AM

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im so sorry :( just remember, even though your MOH might be making this difficult, there are many manyt poeople who want to celebrate this with you..and the day will be wonderful...you'll forget all about this at the shower!!!