Bridal Shower Gifts

connied Posted: Aug 22, 2011 08:53 PM

Bridal Shower Gifts

We are planning a cocktail bridal shower with a DJ for around 50 people.

We have asked everyone to wrap in clear. We would like the bride not to open each gift as this will take time away from the fun and dancing.

Is it rude not to have the bride open each gift?
We were thinking of placing a sticker on the gift with the givers name, placing it on the gift table and then displaying the gifts.

Jmrosa1 Posted: Aug 22, 2011 09:05 PM

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I've been to showers where no gifts were opened at all. So I guess it is a matter of preference.

pinkglam19 Posted: Aug 22, 2011 09:17 PM

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I saw this on a website:

[Honoree] requests unwrapped gifts.

Help save a tree and leave your gift unwrapped.

Help us go green in style and leave your gifts unwrapped.

IrishAli Posted: Aug 22, 2011 09:53 PM

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But how do you pack up china, etc? It has to be packed...then you just get a box?

IrishAli Posted: Aug 22, 2011 09:54 PM

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I mean, I'm not huge on opening everything...but some people love to watch it. Especially if they put a lingerie surprise in the box, etc.

Watermelon5 Posted: Aug 22, 2011 09:56 PM

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Personally, I think its kind of rude to just get the gifts on a table and not open them; I feel like the whole point of the shower is to ooh and aah over the gifts.

Then again, I've heard of ppl doing the clear thing so maybe I'm just too darned traditional LOL! Even though it's boring I like to see the bride's face when she (eventually) gets to my present

raquel37 Posted: Aug 22, 2011 11:00 PM

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i didnt open gifts at my shower...we were having such a good time playing games, chatting and of course drinking we ran out of time....i dont think people were upset they all said they had a great time.......but i have heard of wrapping everything in clear wrap...

leelou48 Posted: Aug 23, 2011 08:46 AM

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even though i HATE sitting through the opening of the gifts....many people like it. Also the people have spent all their money and time to give the gifts and attend, they get excited when the bride gets to their gift.

If the clear thing is done, I feel ike the bride should still lift each one up and thank the people. It will save time to not have to take the paper off anyway.

Even though, opening the gifts for the bride is prob the most fun part. I'm thinking it has to be like Christmas, except you are the only one with gifts!

rosatemp Posted: Aug 23, 2011 09:36 AM

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Posted by Jmrosa1

I've been to showers where no gifts were opened at all. So I guess it is a matter of preference.

ITA

i opened all mine but it was very time consuming and i kinda wish i didnt open them there

Maymay Posted: Aug 23, 2011 09:58 AM

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A cocktail bridal shower sounds amazing! My FH family does not drink at all so that one is out for me...

Regarding the gifts, I am torn with this one also. I kind of selfishly want to open the gifts so:

1. I have help throwing out all the wrapping paper
2. I have help writing down what each person got me
3. I think it will be fun and I know I like to see a brides face when she opens my gift.

I guess it is all up to preference and time. If you are having a sit down meal and only have a few games to play, then you might as well fill the time up with opening gifts.

connied Posted: Aug 23, 2011 11:40 AM

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Thank you everyone for your help! I totally understand what everyone is saying about people paying the money for the presents and some people like watching the Bride open the presents!

I am still torn!

connied Posted: Aug 25, 2011 08:46 AM

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Bump

justnicethings Posted: Aug 25, 2011 09:31 AM

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these people spend a lot of money on giving us gifts, and i really think they do want to see it opened. i think it is courteous to open all the gifts, just my 2 cents.

halfbaked Posted: Aug 25, 2011 10:27 AM

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Posted by justnicethings

these people spend a lot of money on giving us gifts, and i really think they do want to see it opened. i think it is courteous to open all the gifts, just my 2 cents.

ITA. Though to be honest, I think that's just the older generation. With registries and everything, most people KNOW what they're getting. Also, as a guest, I always find it long and boring. As the honoree, I felt under pressure- like I wanted to speed through it so people could go back to enjoying the party, but I didn't want to seem greedy and wanted to take the time to acknowledge each gift. But I know my grandma and aunts wanted me to open each and every single thing!

FutureMcBride Posted: Aug 25, 2011 12:30 PM

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I went to a shower like this, and everyone loved that they didn't have to sit around watching her open gifts!! it was very classy, everything was on display and could see what was there.

I am mixed about this... I kind of want to open gifts and I kind of don't!

EmilyandPeter Posted: Aug 26, 2011 10:00 AM

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Nope this was EXACTLY my shower ENJOY!!

leesah85 Posted: Aug 26, 2011 10:31 AM

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i have 10 BMs and they all opened the gifts and then handed them to me so i could acknowledge who it was from and thank them so techically i personally did not open ANY gifts

kdm822 Posted: Aug 26, 2011 10:43 AM

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I refuse to open gifts... I hateee everyone starring at me (yeah what am i going to do on my wedding day lol)

Everyone was bored at all the showers i went to .. it seemed to drag on and it got to the pt where everyone stopped looking and started talking

Do what your comfortable with. Everyones going to have their own opinios

Yankeeelove Posted: Aug 26, 2011 11:48 AM

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I opened the gifts for my bridal shower, and it was fun, but yes I did feel people got a little bored and would have maybe liked to enjoy the party a little better. I think maybe for my baby shower I will do the clear wrap and look at each gift and announce it instead of opening every one.

pixietina Posted: Aug 26, 2011 12:47 PM

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I only have been to baby showers so its kind of related. As a guest I love watching them open my gift and taking a picture with them. I feel that some guests may not get time with you at a party and this is a good time to have a quick one on one. Other guests were still having a good time talking to each other and eating while they were opening presents. It's not like everyone has to solely pay attention.