Bridal Shower Guest Question

felicita Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:10 AM

Bridal Shower Guest Question

So, my mom and sister asked me for my guest list and I went through the wedding list and even though I know it's supposed to be a party of MY closest family and friends, I still included a lot of people that I knew would make my FMIL happy. I feel it's a very fair list.

So....I recently told FMIL that I handed over my list to my mom and sister. Well... she started asking me who was on the list and I told her. Then she started asking me who wasn't on the list and I told her. Then she she starts saying, well, you should really invite so and so because she'll give you a good gift. Um, that's exactly why I'm NOT inviting them because I don't want to invite people because of gifts! That's an awful reason to invite someone to your shower! So anyway, I basically told her I would, but after thinking it over, I think I'm going to tell her I just don't feel comfortable.

It's three extra people. What do you guys think? Should I just suck it up and make her happy or should I stand my ground on this?

Snickers76 Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:12 AM

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I think you should just suck it up and make her happy--it's not like you can't stand these people. At least you know you had only pure intentions.

DanNette Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:41 AM

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It's only 3 people, I would just invite them. But i would close the list after that.

LoveRocks Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:43 AM

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Posted by DanNette

It's only 3 people, I would just invite them. But i would close the list after that.

I totally agree. If she starts trying to add more people, then tell her that she will be responsible for paying for them if she really wants them there. That's what I'm going to do with my FMIL.

Dee606 Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:48 AM

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Posted by DanNette

It's only 3 people, I would just invite them. But i would close the list after that.

I agree.

donegal419 Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:50 AM

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Just one thing I would add:

If you invite them to the shower, they must be invited to the wedding... so think about that. that may help you decide one way or the other.

cindyandkevin Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:50 AM

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I would just $uck it up and give in to her, like you said it's only 3 people; not enough to start a battle over. Besides, you're already inviting other people from FH's side so these 3 might wonder why they weren't invited and be hurt.

diva7531 Posted: Apr 06, 2007 10:55 AM

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3 people, I would suck it up and invite, it keeps her happy and you won't even notice.

Elizabeth427 Posted: Apr 06, 2007 11:10 AM

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i went through the same EXACT thing with my FMIL and it was ridiculous-i wouldnt give into her-its not her wedding or shower-its yours. dont invite them just to make her happy if you really dont want to.and her reasoning for inviting them is stupid it sounds like my FMIL. im not going to just invite someone that i dont know,like,or feel comfortable inviting cause theyre going to get a gift for me.stick to your guns, i did.