My mom and sisters are throwing my shower, they are on a limited budget, my mom gave my FMIL a limit of 25 guests but my mom seemed to forget that i have my own guests 'friends' i want to invite, so my FMIL count came to 23 so that leaves me to spots i want to invite my friend brooke, leaving one spot, my mom says i have to invite our bestmans fiance, but we dont get along we had a falling out of sorts and we barely speak, do i really have to invite her? and if i invite her and not his mother it will cause talk so that takes me past my limit? I dont want to offend anyone but it pisses me off that i have to invite someone that i know really doesnt like me just because!
pa56
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So, you can only invite two people to your shower?
Well, who is the best man? Is he a relative? Do you like him? Is his fiance in your wedding party?
If she's not in the wedding party, then I don't think your obligated to invite her. Maybe you can compromise with your mom by saying if anyone of your two friends who want to invite can't make it, then you will invite this woman as an alternative.
ajlgmm815
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no the Bm is not a relative he is my FH best friends, His fiance is not in the BP.
pa56
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no the Bm is not a relative he is my FH best friends, His fiance is not in the BP.
Then I would go with my original suggestion of inviting your top 2 choices and if one of them can't come, then invite this other woman.
AlisonMZ14
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If you guys had a falling out then she probably wouldn't come anyway so i'd say invite her and let HER be to the one to make the decision... anyways u can always invite more than what you budgeted for bc some people can't always make it, going one person over isn't really a big deal.
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Argh this annoys me, I hate the fact that we have to feel obligated to invite people to a function that is being held in our honor!
this is tough, esp since I know how persistent moms can be. If you truly would rather a family member or actual friend in her place then tell your mom that. be honest. Yes, you have to walk a fine line in these cases, but you should not have to be fake and invite someone just because. IDK I am a rebel when it comes to things like this. I just don't like to be told what to do or who to invite.
flairforfashion
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Posted by AlisonMZ14
If you guys had a falling out then she probably wouldn't come anyway so i'd say invite her and let HER be to the one to make the decision... anyways u can always invite more than what you budgeted for bc some people can't always make it, going one person over isn't really a big deal.
ITA! You should invite her because this IS the best man's fiance. And let her decide what to do.
