Bridal shower question

How many people do you think should be invited to a bridal shower.

I have been having a big problem with my FMIL. She never listens to me and it is driving me crazy!! 1 example is when we had the engagment party I said I wanted to invite 60 people and when she gave me her list there was 50. I still had to include my list and my parents side. Well there was 90 people thta came to the engagement party. Now with the bridal shower she is driving me crazy. She has 32 on her list alone!! It came out to 70 people. So I told her I am capping it. 50 people including all of us. I am having a big wedding but they want to have my shower at a place not at my house. My BM wanted extra stuff to do and what not so if I have a lot more there isn't much time and it is going to be expensive. Please help. What do you girls think?

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Posted by robynlevy

i know this is a LOT easier said than done when you have a FMIL (like me) who appears to be not the easiest person to deal with, but it really should be what YOU want. It's YOUR shower. I want a small shower and if FMIL got her way, it would be big and she'd have all the females she invited to the wedding there probably. But my father would not give into her this time (he's paying) so she invited 5 people.

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That is what my sisters are telling me. I am letting her invite 17 that my mom is paying for. In the begining my mom said 25 per side and she went to 32. She said she would pay for the extra 5 people. I was like why does my mom have to oay for your 25!! That is why I put it gown to 17 per side and my mom agreed that was fine. His mom now isn't even offering to pay anything and it bitching so much abou it. She said that everyone that is invited to the wedding is invited to the shower. I was like just cause you know people that have done that doesn't mean I have to! 50 people to me is plenty. I let her invite whoever she wanted to the wedding.

A shower is usually hosted by the bridal party. It includes the bride's friends, the female members of the groom's family and the bride's family, and any other female guests for the wedding that the BRIDE wants included. It does not include FMIL's bridge partner, or the lady that does her hair or nails, or her first grade teacher!

If FMIL wants to throw a shower that includes every female guest that is invited to the wedding, talk to your BP about hosting a small shower (the way you want) and then let FMIL foot the bill to entertain her friends at a second shower.

Edit to add:

I have 39 people total on my shower invite list (my wedding guest list has @ 135 people on it NOW). My mother was stunned about how the numbers could be so 'off'. I explained that FH & I broke the list out. We each originally had 62 slots for guests. We have mutually agreed to add some to expand the list (two couples, total of 4 add'l people). I am not inviting the wives of FH co-workers to my shower - they don't know him or me! When I explained it to her, she completely understood.

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Posted by October Bliss

A shower is usually hosted by the bridal party. It includes the bride's friends, the female members of the groom's family and the bride's family, and any other female guests for the wedding that the BRIDE wants included. It does not include FMIL's bridge partner, or the lady that does her hair or nails, or her first grade teacher!

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That is exactly what I was thinking! I had to put my foot down before she went any further pissing me off.

Now she keeps making these stupid comments!! Oh well she better get over it fast otherwise I will be saying something.