bridal shower question

historie86 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 09:06 PM

bridal shower question

Does a bridal shower have to be a surprise?

I have this fear that if my shower is a surprise I'll be unshowered and in sweats! lol

I was in sweats for my engagement so I'm trying to avoid a repeat!

DnJ0809 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 09:08 PM

Re: bridal shower question

No, showers do not have to be a surprise. Many people are preferring to know their shower date to avoid what you mentioned. Another option however if you would still like for it to be a surprise is to pick out a pre-planned outfit and give it to your FH. He can then give it to the shower host(s) and when you arrive, if you're in sweats, you have something nice to change into.

lizzie217 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 09:49 PM

Re: bridal shower question

Mine was not bc since I lived at home my mom thought it would be too hard to keep it a secret. So no, it does not need to be a surprise

alli3131 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 10:01 PM

Re: bridal shower question

Mine was not.....well the date wasn't a surprise and the place ended up not being a surprise but I also am not a planner when it comes to clothes so I def. would have showed up in sweats and dirty.

20mrsc10 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 10:02 PM

Re: bridal shower question

the same thing would happen to me lol
i hate surprises so my moh knows that thats a no-no

even my engagement i knew about i picked out the ring hehe

lolalovesacroat Posted: Apr 04, 2009 11:00 PM

Re: bridal shower question

I want mine not to be a surpise, b/c in the long run I know when it will be. I would just come dressed nice, on random Sat/Sun closer to your date. I always hated the fake surpise girls who have a shower dress that matchings exactly with the shower theme, like they have no idea and they get changed at the hall. My uncle God bless him would always say the true shower surpise is no shower at all!

lucky1010 Posted: Apr 04, 2009 11:12 PM

Re: bridal shower question

Mine was not and I preferred it that way.. I was able to get my hair done, wear a nice dress, and be prepared.. I even had say in some of the decisions with my shower, not cause I was a bridezilla, but because my mom really wanted my shower to be what I wanted...

JAAMS Posted: Apr 04, 2009 11:48 PM

Re: bridal shower question

I think people always tend to find out about surprises anyway. But I do have this fear too- I told people to give me some idea so that I can be prepared.

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 05, 2009 04:21 AM

Re: bridal shower question

I actually want mine to be a surprise which is surprising LOL i always hate surprises but with this i kind of want to walk into a hall with 60 people who yell surprise at me. I know it will give my FH joy if hes the one who brings me. i dont know... just my opinion!

runnerbride1023 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:19 AM

Re: bridal shower question

I want to be surprised but I hate to be caught off-guard. I am very type-A so a total surprise is not something i'd enjoy. But i think there is a difference between knowing when your shower will be and planning your shower. Knowing the date and time is not a bad thing. The place and details will all be a surprise.

SummerBride10 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 10:33 AM

Re: bridal shower question

They don't have to be a surprise. I have the same fear as you. Then again, I don't think whoever is throwing you the shower (your MOH, BMs, mother, etc) would let you show up at your shower a complete disaster!

Espo22 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 12:26 PM

Re: bridal shower question

They don't have to be a surprise, it's up to you.

Also, ive seen so many posts about girls worried they will show up in sweats, i had the same fear too and i have yet to see somebody do this lol. Most likely the person who has to bring you there wont tell you 'hey lets go to the store' or something simple where you would wear sweats. Most know to come up with something that would require you to be a little more dressed up, such as lying that its another event bc they do have to show up at a restaurant or RH with you and then what will they say ya know. Since somebody brings you there and usually fh does, they will make sure you dont walk out in sweats lol. Plus what many girls do is give their mom or MOH a dress to hold onto in case this happens. Or keep it in your own car around the time frame you think your shower will be. Lets say starting 3 months before lol

Celeste617 Posted: Apr 05, 2009 12:35 PM

Re: bridal shower question

Mine will not be a surprise. I told my girls that I wanted to at least know the time and place but don't need the details. I am just not a fan of complete surprises.

soontobecruz Posted: Apr 05, 2009 12:38 PM

Re: bridal shower question

I want mine to be a surprise also. I don't want to know anything about it. Honestly I am such a planner and usually the social organizer of everything that I want to be the one who knows nothing. I don't care if I show up in sweats (hopefully showered though haha). I plan on giving my mom or MOH a dress I would like to wear about 6 months before the wedding and they can bring it so I can change. Everything else I need to be totally involved in but the shower I want to be a total surprise.

jessiemelina Posted: Apr 06, 2009 01:23 AM

Re: bridal shower question

I don't think I've ever been to a shower that was a surprise, but it all depends on what you want. I think the bacherlorette party is more of a surprise than the shower.

JenBill61210 Posted: Apr 06, 2009 08:38 AM

Re: bridal shower question

i want mine to be a surprise, but i think my mom will set it up so that i receive some sort of fake invitation to another party so that i won't look completely disasterous...lol