How do you decide who's hosting? I'm the MOH and the bride-to-be's mom has yet to approach me about the bridal shower. The girl is getting married towards the end of June!
Do I assume that the bridal party is hosting it since her mom hasn't mentioned it to me? or Do I ask my friend's mom what her intentions are?
Man, I need to hustle on this!
susanc
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Why don't you call the MOB and talk about it? You still have plenty of time. I have heard of the BMs hosting it but sometimes the MOB offers to do it herself. Good luck!
Jenny5150
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I sent the MOB an email asking what she wanted to do. Unfortunately, I just got the BP's and other's emails & phone numbers today (not for lack of trying!!!) Hopefully she'll respond this weekend. (I'd call, but the bride-to-be is with her this weekend.)
Uggg...I feel like there's isn't much time.
How far in adance should the Bridal Shower invites go out? Do you think a month in advance is sufficient?
susanc
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A month for invites is fine!! Hopefully you will know soon!
CarrieAnn
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I was under the inpression that it is the responsibility of the MOH and BP, and it should not be hosted by the mother of the bride...
Jenny5150
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I was always under the impression that it was the MOB who hosted the shower with the help of the BP.
lilmrs
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The bridal party should host it, not the MOB. I believe in my etiquette book it says that no memeber of the brides immediate family should be the host of the party because then it comes off as them trying to get gifts for the bride.
dcbride
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Traditionally I think it is supposed to be the bridal party- but now since it is so expensive I think the MOB gets involved. Even if she doesn't want to contribute financially I think she would want to have a say in the date etc.
Jenn524
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It has always been my experience that the BP is in charge of the shower and usually the MOB helps out behind the scenes. If I were you I would just contact the MOB to make sure she's not planning anything and then you should start putting it together.
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I shouldn't know this (because I haven't had mine yet) but I know my mom is hosting mine all by herself. I believe she had some help in the planning from my MOH and maybe BMs, but as for $$$, it was all my mom. (This was her decision - I am not saying my BMs wouldn't have chipped in if she had asked.)
I have heard it being done either way - by the BP or by the MOB. I don't think there is really one right or wrong way. For my SIL's shower, her mother and my mother split it.
p&a91203
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Hi Jenny! I have heard that it is both the MOB and BM's that host the party. Maybe she has been waiting for you to make the first move and that is why she hasn't asked. Anyway, believe it or not...you have time- not much, but some! Just wait to hear back from her, and get the ball rolling. One month is perfect for invites to go out. Good Luck!
