i've heard it is proper to invite all the attandants. beyond that i don't know if there are any rules
I gave my mom my list this week and I'm not inviting every single woman on that list. It would be insane because our invite list is over 300 people! So, I gave her everyone that I'm close with which was about 40 women and that doesnt include what FMIL will give.
I think we are inviting all the women on my parents side, and my and FH's friends (unless I don't really know the girlfriends), and just a few on FH's parents side bc FMIL only wants a few invited?? Otherwise, I would have invited more from their side. Who knows.
I guess families on both sides....also if you invite them to the shower they should be invited to the wedding
i don't know of any official rules but from what i have seen and been to its usually the women on both sides of the families and whatever close friends you want .. i don't think you invite all the women ...
I am inviting the families and my friends. A lot of my FH friends have g/f that I dont know very well. Even though they will be invited to the wedding, I am not putting them on the list for the shower.
Posted by raema29
i don't know of any official rules but from what i have seen and been to its usually the women on both sides of the families and whatever close friends you want .. i don't think you invite all the women ...
i don't think there are strict rules about who to invite for a shower- its really up to you. most showers do not include all female wedding guests- they tend to be close female family members, bridal party, and close friends. i prefer a more intimate shower, where you can relax and socialize with your special ladies!
Also, Bridal Showers these days are also becoming co-ed. so it's OK to invite males as well.
As a general rule, yes any female invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. In my case, I didn't only b/c I didn't invite the girlfriends/ wifes of DH's friends, whom I didn't know. I know I myself would be uncomfortable going to a shower for someone I didn't know.
the only rule i know is if u invite them to the shower u NEED to invite them to the wedding.
