Bridal shower thank-yous?

MrsWmson2be Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:31 PM

Bridal shower thank-yous?

How long do you have after your shower to send the guests thank you cards? What's an acceptable time frame? Thank you!

Shannondon Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:38 PM

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i would do it right away, the longer you put it off, the worse it is.

hsacks23r Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:40 PM

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I would say 2-3 months the most
I sent mine out the very next day :):)

MrsWmson2be Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:44 PM

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Thank you for the responses. When I write them out, should I personalize the thank you such as 'Thank you for the can-opener' or is it best to keep it general, as in 'Thank you for coming and for your generous gift?' TIA!!

mskittynj Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:47 PM

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I would make it personal. I wouldn't wait more than 1 month to send them out.
XOXOXO
Kitty

Shannondon Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:48 PM

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I think you should personalize the shower thank you. Its the only time you can. You can't personalize the wedding one that much, that one is usually a general thank you.

hocus Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:49 PM

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I would say 1 month, unless your shower is two weeks before you wedding.

Mayflower Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:51 PM

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i started writing mine the week after so i could still remember them (and the gift) at the shower and could personalize it without too much effort. Even with a list of items like 'toaster', I'll never remember what was cool about it if I put it off for too long.

Plus, you should do them sooner before you're stuck writing those AND the wedding thank yous!

FallBride05 Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:52 PM

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I sent mine out right away. Besides, my shower was 5 weeks before my wedding. I also personalized each thank you

MrsWmson2be Posted: Mar 27, 2006 01:54 PM

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Thanks very much. My shower was March 12. I sent a few personalized thank you's out already (like 5 or so out of 40). Thanks for the help and advice.

hocus Posted: Mar 27, 2006 02:00 PM

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The basic structure of a thank you is as follows:

1. Greeting
2. Thank you specific
3. Personal note
4. Closing

If people gave you an actual gift then you should mention in your note. If you received cash then you can make some vague reference to what it might be used for. Below are some samples.

Dear Cousins

Thank you for the lovely wine goblets. I am sure we will but them to good use “soon”. (Right after David and I have some free moments to clean the apartment, put them away, buy some wine and make a good dinner – so in about 10 weeks). David and his parents are wine lovers, so they will get lots of use. I’m sure they’ll make our first dinner party at Mrs. and Mrs. Smith all the more elegant. We look forward to seeing you again soon.

Dear Cousins
I was absolutely thrilled by the double gift of the electric wok and measuring cups. I am also certain that David will be trilled when I use them to make a “fabulous” dinner in 20 minuets. It was also a treat to see you both. We certainly hope that you come to New York soon. I want to show you where to get the best bread pudding, the best chocolate cheese cake, the best molten chocolate cake …I should stop, I am getting too hungry. See you soon (less than seven weeks).

Dear Next Door Neightboor

Thank you so much for the cake stand. As David and I both love cake we will use it often. Hopefully my cakes will be tasty enough to put on such a lovely serving piece. It was wonderful to see you at the shower. I am glad to hear that Donna is doing well. Please let me know at the wedding if she enjoyed her trip to Alaska. See you again soon

Dear Office Co-worker from other city
Please share our gratitude with everyone in the office for the silver chest. It is a most handsome addition to our home. We look forward to family holidays where we can take it out and show it to our parents and friends. David and I are both certain it will generate many compliments. Though you were missed at the wedding and reception David and I were glad that your thoughts were with us on our special day. I look forward to seeing you again on your next business trip to New York, where I thank you in person.

Dear Aunt –
Thank you for your generous wedding gift! We plan on putting our wedding gifts into a home fund so we can move into a large apartment in the next few years. David and I were so delighted that you could make it to the wedding; we both felt that having our families there was one of the most important aspects of the day. I hope that you enjoyed yourself during the wedding. We look forward to seeing you at thanksgiving -- and hope to have some professional pictures by then to show everyone.

MrsWmson2be Posted: Mar 27, 2006 02:07 PM

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Thanks Adina! Your advice certainly helps!! :)

hocus Posted: Mar 27, 2006 04:53 PM

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Posted by MrsWmson2be

Thanks Adina! Your advice certainly helps!! :)

NP :)

I found shower thank you notes pretty easy (thought I only had about 20 or so to write) because I pretty much knew everyone at my shower.

The wedding was much harder -- I really don't know my husband's family and friends well enough to make any sort of personal comments on their notes. But I got them done .... and I am so happy it is over.