So my FMIL volunteered to throw my bridal shower which I can't express how appreciative I am (my MOH originally had planned to throw it and she was kind of upset when my FMIL decided to take over but I let her know it was probably better for her especially financially, and that my FMIL will keep in contact so that she is involved in the planning process). My FMIL wants it to be a surprise which I would kinda like to be involved because I'm so used to doing everything myself but I gave up and decided to make her happy by agreeing to make it a surprise. Well she has recently reached out to my MOH and left her a voicemail saying I found a few places I would like to discuss with you so give me a call back. So after getting that voicemail my MOH asks what kind of places I would like to have it so that she knows that I'd be happy with the decision. I tell her I'd like to have it at maybe a country club or a private room of a nice restaurant but Im not too picky just no bars or pub/house restaurants. So I found out from my MOH and one of my BMs that my FMIL wanted to have my shower at this dive of a restaurant. She didn't give my MOH any options she just said I want to book this place tomorrow what do you think. Its called the Mill House Inn in yaphank (if anyone has been there please let me know how it is). It's mainly a bar and I pass by it all the time and I wouldn't think of ever even going to dinner there. They don't have any pics of the inside on their website but I found some pics on their facebook and its gross. But my FMIL has eaten there before and she seems to like the food. Idk what to do my MOH and BM know that this is definitely not a place either of them would ever go let along have a shower there. My FH texted my MOH asking what she thought of the place because my FMIL wants to book this tomorrow. My MOH told him that it looks too dark and too much like a bar and that I probably wouldnt like it so tomorrow she's going out to find some other options. The real problem is that I know my FMIL and if she is about to book this place her mind is already made up. What do i do ladies? Should I just be grateful that she's throwing me a shower at all or do I put my MOH in an uncomfortable position and have her confront my FMIL??
kattus
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Be greatful for the shower. Did you communicate to your FMIL that you would prefer NOT having it at a pubhouse or just that you'd prefer a country club? Showers are usually planned by someone other than the bride, so just as your wedding is you and FH's vision, this is her vision. I'm sure that despite what FB shows of its interior, your FMIL and MOH will make it look beautiful for your shower.
mara1017
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Having it at a country club type place would be alot of money. Unless you are paying for it you have to back and b appreciative of what she is doig for you.
bowlergyal
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I would say just go along for the ride. Stop asking questions about it and just be surprised that day. You never know what it will turn out to be.
Enjoy your time with the closest women in your life, it really is not about the location, it's the people who are there that will make it special. Some of the best times I have ever had with my friends were at the most boot-leg places out there. Remember you will have your time to shine and have fantastic atmosphere for the wedding.
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I think everything will turn out just fine. While I understand that the restaurant your FMIL has picked may not be your taste, it must be her taste and maybe it's not so horrible. Enjoy, just think how special it's going to be.
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Posted by bowlergyal
I would say just go along for the ride. Stop asking questions about it and just be surprised that day. You never know what it will turn out to be.
Enjoy your time with the closest women in your life, it really is not about the location, it's the people who are there that will make it special. Some of the best times I have ever had with my friends were at the most boot-leg places out there. Remember you will have your time to shine and have fantastic atmosphere for the wedding.
This! I couldn't have said it better myself.
FutureMrsGTL
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Posted by bowlergyal
I would say just go along for the ride. Stop asking questions about it and just be surprised that day. You never know what it will turn out to be.
Enjoy your time with the closest women in your life, it really is not about the location, it's the people who are there that will make it special. Some of the best times I have ever had with my friends were at the most boot-leg places out there. Remember you will have your time to shine and have fantastic atmosphere for the wedding.
ITA!
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This is exactly why my mom does not allow me to get involved in any shower plans. It is a total surprise and she won't allow me the stress of micro managing my own bridal shower. Enjoy your wedding planning. The bridal shower is out of your control. Relax on this one, you will have a great time and you'll enjoy every minute of it because it was all done by the people who love you. My sister e-mailed my mom with a list of how she wanted her shower, my mom had a good laugh and did everything the opposite of that list. The shower was amazing and my sister could not be thankful enough about how great it all truned out.
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Don't stress it. I am sure they will make it very lovely for you.
LaBellaVita7712
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I would agree with you, although it is lovely she is planning/paying I would be kind of upset if it was at a location I did not want it at. I would not want it at a bar at all. I would have your MOH push for additional options.
