Bridal Shower Vent/Question

FutureMrs.T Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:16 PM

Bridal Shower Vent/Question

So....FH and I live on Long Island. My dad's family is in NY and so are the FIL'S family. My mom and my sisters live in Delaware. My sister (MOH) said that they would probably throw me a shower in Delaware. I was really hoping my shower would be where I live on Long Island with my friends and family. I figured my sisters and mom and the 4 aunts could come to NY for the party. I know it is not going to be until next summer, but how do I get the point across to them that I want the shower in NY because if it is out of NY half of the people if not more, would not come.

FutureMrs.T Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:21 PM

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15 people read.....and nobody has advice?

Wedding999 Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:22 PM

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If theres anyone in the bridal party that would feel comfortable speakin to your mom and sister for you - otherwise just tell them outright yourself. The truth always works the best.

anneandchris Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:23 PM

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We went through the same problem with my sister (she lives in NC) and we ended up having 3 showers for her.

Do you have any bridesmaids in NY that could possibly talk to you sister? Have her contact your sister and suggest doing it up here so that everyone could attend? If you don't have a BM who can do it possibly your FH? If there is only 5 or 6 of them coming from Delaware could you have places for them to stay arranged so they don't have to pay for a hotel?

HTH

kslmbuggie Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:24 PM

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just tell them you want it in ny

irishsweetheart Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:24 PM

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i would tell them point blankly that no one from ny/li is going to show if it's in delaware and that you REALLY wanted to have it in NY...

If they still throw it in Delaware, maybe the people in NY who couldn't go to Delaware will throw you another one in NY!

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:24 PM

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tell them this is the way you would prefer it. Who's throwing it for u? Let them know you would prefer it that way, but again its someone throwing you a party that's SUPPOSED to be a surprise...you can't start dictating exactly how u would like it to be w/o ruffling some feathers

FutureMrs.T Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:27 PM

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thanks for the advice. I guess I can casually mention it to my sister, but then she will tell me I am being a bridezilla and dicating to her. Its always 2 against 1 with my sisters (them against me) since I am the youngest!

kristi313 Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:29 PM

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i think you really need to let them know who much you want people here to attend. and that if it's out of state you would feel bad for all the other people here.

or

you could have 2 showers - 1 in NY and 1 in Delaware is it possible? could a bm or someone take charge of a NY shower?

GinaBambina08 Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:29 PM

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Just mention it to them, tell them that you want certain ppl to be there and you know they wouldn't be able to travel to Delaware for it..

Espo22 Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:29 PM

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maybe sit them down and explain that its hard to ask a bunch of ppl to go to delaware and it would be alot easier for just 4-6 ppl to come to NY especially since they can just stay with family

blu6385 Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:34 PM

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i would just tell them that you rather not have the shower in Delaware cause no one in NY will probably go ... and if they insit on having in Delware then tell them that you insit on them throwing you 2 one in delaware and one in NY

gettinghizitched Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:39 PM

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Since your mom and sisters should be throwing you the party you need to talk to them about having the shower in ny b/c of all the people that might miss out b/c of travel. HTH.

misstulip Posted: Sep 19, 2007 03:41 PM

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yeah..i don't know how your relationship w/ your sister or mom is..but i think you should ask them if they could come to NY. and def. buffer it by saying you would really really appreciate it if they wouldn't mind coming down to ny.