Without saying too much (lurkers), if someone was getting married this year and asking you to be a bridesmaid (not because you're that close to eachother) but because the FH has a lot of GM, would you feel obligated to ask that person to be in your wedding?
babsbeark
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I don’t think so because maybe you are not having a large bridal party, or maybe she is not such a close friend to you.
mrsdraskin2009
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Possibly. Depends on a lot of other circumstances. I asked 2 people to be in my BP because FH asked me to, but it was cool w/me, though they are both married so I wasn't in theit BPs, and one is a good friend and one is my BILs wife.
christine2010
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not all. a friend of mine asked me to be in her bridal party & i was. yes we are close friends but i secretly believed it was because her now DH had 11 guys & she only had 10 girls.
even though our bridal party is uneven i will not be asking her because i am not including any friends only family for the bridesmaids.
MrsC2010
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No! I dont think you should ever feel obligated to put someone in your wedding just because they put you in theirs. jmo.
JenBill61210
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No! I dont think you should ever feel obligated to put someone in your wedding just because they put you in theirs. jmo.
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Becca2010
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No! I dont think you should ever feel obligated to put someone in your wedding just because they put you in theirs. jmo.
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Same here AND some people believe you shouldn't put married people in your BP. I'm not following that, but it's a decent excuse!
StaceyWill
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Thanks ladies!!!
JAAMS
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I really don't know how I feel about this. So I'm going to give you both sides, because I see both.
I don't think you should feel OBLIGATED to ask someone to be in your BP. I think it should be those closest to you only.
That being said...
I never thought I would be a person to not feel so great if I wasn't asked to be in the BP of someone who was in mine. But I think maybe I am. I don't know if hurting someone who means something to yous feelings is worth it.
I think I'm more leaning toward no you don't have to ask, but just to be sensitive to the gal's feelings. HTH
MrsCM
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Nope!
soontobecruz
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Nope! I think it is a personal decision who you ask. I think if you're asking someone out of obligation then you arn't to close with them and wouldn't feel bad not having her.
jayepyt
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nope
jcreilly
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No
chrisandletizia
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absolutely not.
Jenna_and_John
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Not at all I dont think who you choose or those who choose you should have to feel that way. It is the bride's preference who they want, not a tag off.
