Oh boy, I need HELP here! I asked a friend that I'm pretty close with to be in my wedding about 2 months ago. SInce then, some stuff has gone on in her life that I do not approve of and now we barely even speak. The more I think about the situation, the more I realize I do not want her to be part of the wedding. My fiance doesnt want me to even be friends with her, let alone in the wedding.. WHAT do I do here and HOW do I tell her?
b2b2013
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Geeze, that's a tough one! Well if you don't talk, then I would hope that she knows that she's no longer a part of the wedding, right?
Of course that would be the case in a perfect world that we do not live in lol. If you guys don't talk, for whatever reason, I would simply just call or text her (I know texting is kinda shady, but if you guys aren't friends anymore it might actually save the you from the uncomfortable phone call) and say that you wanted to let her know that (due to the circumstances) you think it would be best that she not be in the wedding, but maybe as time goes on you could invite her. I don't know what happened, but if you think it's something that could eventually be forgiven than maybe inviting her is an option.
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
GettingMarried13
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We talk here and there now, nothing like before. I was thinking about texting her, because a phone call is going to be SUPER uncomfortable- YIKES! I can see inviting her down the line, but as far as being in the wedding- it has to be a no. I'm like the easiest person in the world to get along with and hate confrontation or arguments. This is going to be tough, bc she's definitely going to fight me on my decision. I have to do what I feel is right. THANK YOU for your words of advice!!
b2b2013
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no problem! I know it's easier said then done, but you're right- you have to do what's best for you. There's gonna be enough to stress about and you don't need that hanging over your head
GettingMarried13
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Exactly my thoughts as well..
Kris10nGerard
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I agree!! Not sure what I would say in your situation, I am so bad at those type of things. I would tell her sooner that why it is done and you wont have to worry about it. Hopefully she wont make a big deal out of it.
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I know what im having the same problem here too...i have a friend (long story) but she screwed over my two freind that got married and she was in the wedding ..my one friend kicked her out and my other friend told me what never you do dont put her in it and i really didnt ask her but the problem here is that the other day it was my friends 30th b-day party and she come and when i was saying good-bye to her she told me congrats on my engagement ...I was like *** b/c i been engaged for 9 months and she didnt say a dam word and now i think shes saying something b/c she wants to be in my party and my FH does not like her at all...but i would really call her and tell you that you need to talk meet somewhere and just tell her....it sucks but if you feel stongly about not having her in the party ...u have to think whats going to happen when your wedding comes around too... Good luck!@
KristyANDMatt224
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That is a really crappy situation. At this point I am sure she also senses that you two are not as close and even may be wanting to bring this convo up herself! I wouldn't bring up 'maybe you will be invited'. Just leave it about the wedding party for now. Hopefully she will understand. And the best part is- wedding is 2 years away, so things may be patched up and may be no hard feelings at all by then.
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Thank you all for your advice and suggestions, it's very helpful!!!
