what factors do you look at when picking a bridesmaid, are you obligated to put someone in your wedding that put you in theirs? i'm not that close to a lot of girls but dont want such a small wedding party, but i'm afraid to ask some people b/c i can't tell if they want to be in it or not, any advice? also whats a cute way of asking?
Posted by bride2benyli
what factors do you look at when picking a bridesmaid, are you obligated to put someone in your wedding that put you in theirs? i'm not that close to a lot of girls but dont want such a small wedding party, but i'm afraid to ask some people b/c i can't tell if they want to be in it or not, any advice? also whats a cute way of asking?
cookie is cute where did you get that?
i don't think you are obligated to put anyone in your party. The situation is different for many people, some want it to be all family, others have small familys so that is not the case.
well if someone put you in theirs but was iffy about you even being in theirs would you have to put them in yours?
Posted by bride2benyli
well if someone put you in theirs but was iffy about you even being in theirs would you have to put them in yours?
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by bride2benyli
what factors do you look at when picking a bridesmaid, are you obligated to put someone in your wedding that put you in theirs? i'm not that close to a lot of girls but dont want such a small wedding party, but i'm afraid to ask some people b/c i can't tell if they want to be in it or not, any advice? also whats a cute way of asking?
My cousin had me in her wedding just to spite her cousin on her moms side! She doesnt even like me! I'm definitely not having her in mine!
just be careful about who you ask and what you expect of them. if you want your bridesmaids to be attentive and be reliable and be there to help you out on wedding errands, it may be hard to motivate certain people if you're not too close to them. pick bridesmaids you know you want to share you day with (and days leading up to it).
I know there are some obligations with family, I have FH's sister in my wedding party. She's not always the easiest to get along with, but its the right thing to do. As far as other friends...if they're not your best of the best friends, it might not be a good idea to include them. You want them to help you with the planning and really be excited for you and your wedding and also not butt heads with your moh and such! Good luck!
I put FH's sister and sister in law in my party...but as far as friends put who you want in your party. Dont feel obligated
