Hey people. I have a dilemma that I need some help sorting out. In June 2009, when U first got engaged, I hastily chose my bridesmaids. One girl, I feel that we are not as close as I thought we were. If I never chose her in the first place, I believe she would not be bothered. So, now I need help on removing/replacing her. She does not know who the other bridesmaids are, and how many, and she also would not know she's been replaced. Is there a safe way to do this? Do you think she might have forgotten I even asked? Or, am I just stuck. Thanks in advance.
TeAmoChris
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Posted by night_nurse
Hey people. I have a dilemma that I need some help sorting out. In June 2009, when U first got engaged, I hastily chose my bridesmaids. One girl, I feel that we are not as close as I thought we were. If I never chose her in the first place, I believe she would not be bothered. So, now I need help on removing/replacing her. She does not know who the other bridesmaids are, and how many, and she also would not know she's been replaced. Is there a safe way to do this? Do you think she might have forgotten I even asked? Or, am I just stuck. Thanks in advance.
Hmmm....if you really asked her back in 2009 then there is a good chance she might not believe she is still a bridesmaid per say...but 'forgotten' I don't think so. I would be honest and say that you are choosing to put 'only family' or to 'keep it small' due to the budget. If you are not as close as you used to be then I doubt she woudl press the issue further...
AwaitingAugust
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i can't imagine she'd forget that you asked her to be a BM.
can you switch her to be a ceremony reader instead?
or if you don't want her involved at all, you can ask her if she wants to be in the bridal party because you feel she's a little MIA lately (but be prepared for her to say she def wants to stay as a BM)
halfbaked
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
i can't imagine she'd forget that you asked her to be a BM.
can you switch her to be a ceremony reader instead?
or if you don't want her involved at all, you can ask her if she wants to be in the bridal party because you feel she's a little MIA lately (but be prepared for her to say she def wants to stay as a BM)
Ditto. I wouldn't just go on the assumption that she forgot.
