Bridesmaid drama

I totally understand you!
First things first is stop pleasing people. I had to learn that and at times I still find myself trying to do things in order to make others happy.
This is YOUR wedding and YOUR happiness is MOST important.
Sometimes people are so worried about titles and sometimes they don't even live up to it leaving you with disappointments.
Eventually people will get over it and if they don't then let them be. You can't go pleasing everyone in your bridal party with titles.
Don't get too stressed out over this. What's important is you and your FH!!!!

Do what you want to do. Your sisters will get over it! I think your wedding is one time that you have to be selfish and do what works for you!

At the same time do not feel like you have to give your FH sister a special title. Again..... do what you want. She is a bridesmaid and that is a special title!

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Posted by mara1017

Do what you want to do. Your sisters will get over it! I think your wedding is one time that you have to be selfish and do what works for you!

At the same time do not feel like you have to give your FH sister a special title. Again..... do what you want. She is a bridesmaid and that is a special title!

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That's right!!! Tell em how it is....


LOL! It was sooo hard for me in the beginning to be selfish but I'm loving this!!!!

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Posted by mara1017

Do what you want to do. Your sisters will get over it! I think your wedding is one time that you have to be selfish and do what works for you!

At the same time do not feel like you have to give your FH sister a special title. Again..... do what you want. She is a bridesmaid and that is a special title!

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I totally and completely agree! being a bridesmaid is a special title.

and if FH wants her to be a 'best woman' along with being a bridesmaid than thats fine too.

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Posted by roblisa09

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Posted by mara1017

Do what you want to do. Your sisters will get over it! I think your wedding is one time that you have to be selfish and do what works for you!

At the same time do not feel like you have to give your FH sister a special title. Again..... do what you want. She is a bridesmaid and that is a special title!

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That's right!!! Tell em how it is....


LOL! It was sooo hard for me in the beginning to be selfish but I'm loving this!!!!

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Agreed. Don't try to please other people this is your day! It sounds like your original plan was having your twin sisters be the MOHs and the other two bridesmaids. I would stick with what you wanted. IMHO its a bit forward and rude for someone to self proclaim themselves as an MOH. (When you asked you were clear about her being a bridesmaid and not a MOH right?) I think having her as a bridesmaid is an honor in it self, you shouldn't have to worry about the level of honoring.

I have a funny story along these lines. FH's brother is his Best man and my sister is my maid of honor. The day we got engaged we went out to dinner with my sister, her boyfriend and MY brother. My sister's boyfriend at some point said, 'oh yea, you've got your best man and maid of honor right here!' And my brother was the first to be like, 'no dude, he has a brother!' it was just weird and awkward.

I have 2 sisters who are both married. They were each others maid's of honor so now that I'm finally engaged I couldn't pick between them so I'm making them both my matrons of honor.

To be completely honest with you I really hate the whole title thing. I'm having either 5 or 6 girls in my party and in my eyes they are ALL equal. I might put my sisters in a lighter/darker dress just to make them stand out but my cousin & 2 FSIL's are my bridesmaids & I don't look at any of them as more important as the next.

I also have 3 nieces and I'm making them all my flower girls so there's no fighting and I want to make sure everyone feels special the day of.

i would stick with your original plan...have your two sisters both as maids of honors......the FSIL will get over it, and shouldnt have thought in the first place that she was going to be MOH.

If you want her to play a special role, have her do a reading or something.

uggh I hear you. I had some drama too,

skip titles....in your heart and theirs they know who and what they really are!!!

wow..sorry about this.
yea id have to agree with most girls on here for this topic.
your sisters should be maid of honor
and then fsil a bridesmaid.
she shouldnt have assumed.

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Posted by 5272012

wow..sorry about this.
yea id have to agree with most girls on here for this topic.
your sisters should be maid of honor
and then fsil a bridesmaid.
she shouldnt have assumed.

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ditto! your sisters are who you chose as your MOH's and I understand why they may feel slighted if the entire party is MOH's (then basically the title loses its meaning); your FSIL def shouldnt have assumed she would be the MOH knowing you have sisters. Unless you want her to be Best Woman I think you should leave it as planned and just honor her with the title of bridesmaid!!!

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Posted by 5272012

wow..sorry about this.
yea id have to agree with most girls on here for this topic.
your sisters should be maid of honor
and then fsil a bridesmaid.
she shouldnt have assumed.

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agree