So with only 74 days left until the wedding, I told one of my bridesmaids that I thought it would be better if she were just a guest and not in the wedding party anymore. I know that sounds really harsh now that I'm re-reading it, but she has caused too much stress for me and the other girls. Aside from never returning my calls, she never responded to the other girls when my shower was being planned, stiffed them on the cost of the shower and then tried telling me that they never included her in it to see if the date was ok. But the kicker of it finally came this weekend when I realized that she has not once called to see how my dad has been doing (he's been in the hospital for the past 5 weeks and things got pretty bad for a few days) and came up with a million excuses as to why she didn't/couldn't call me. After all this we had a normal conversation and she seemed like the old friend I knew, but it was just too little, too late. I feel horrible about this since she was my best friend and roommate all 4 years of college. And now I wonder if she will even come to the wedding at all. AAAHHH!!
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Sorry to hear that! You shouldn't have to go through this during such a stressful and painful time.
I'm sorry to hear about your dad too, you need a friend who'll lend a hand and an ear, not one who's ready to give every excuse under the sun.
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I would have done the same thing. All of the other stuff can be overlooked-even though it is extremely rude to the rest of the BP, but she should have at the very least called about your father. I'm sorry you had to be put in this situation so close to the wedding.
Mooshyboo
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awwww I am sorry to hear you are going through this...
shellibean
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It sounds as if you did the right thing for youself! Don't worry, if she doesn't come to the wedding then she is the one missing out on a fabulous time!
cherryj24
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Awh, I am sorry. It's such a let down when friends show yuo their true colors. And I am sorry to hear about your dad. Is he OK?
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Posted by snydl40
I would have done the same thing. All of the other stuff can be overlooked-even though it is extremely rude to the rest of the BP, but she should have at the very least called about your father. I'm sorry you had to be put in this situation so close to the wedding.
I agree - she should have been there for you and your family when you needed a friend the most! And I am very sorry to hear that your dad is in the hospital, my prayers are with him.
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You made the right decision!! Sometimes people do not realize what it means to be in a BP.... Hope everything is better with your Dad!!
cuteauburnininny
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i am soo sorry to hear about your dad.
as for your friend well sometimes some thingsjust aren;t meant to be . i beleive everything happens for a reason.
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So with only 74 days left until the wedding, I told one of my bridesmaids that I thought it would be better if she were just a guest and not in the wedding party anymore. I know that sounds really harsh now that I'm re-reading it, but she has caused too much stress for me and the other girls. Aside from never returning my calls, she never responded to the other girls when my shower was being planned, stiffed them on the cost of the shower and then tried telling me that they never included her in it to see if the date was ok. But the kicker of it finally came this weekend when I realized that she has not once called to see how my dad has been doing (he's been in the hospital for the past 5 weeks and things got pretty bad for a few days) and came up with a million excuses as to why she didn't/couldn't call me. After all this we had a normal conversation and she seemed like the old friend I knew, but it was just too little, too late. I feel horrible about this since she was my best friend and roommate all 4 years of college. And now I wonder if she will even come to the wedding at all. AAAHHH!!
Sorry to here that.
At least it all came out now and not a week before
