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BY THE WAY.. They have both been engaged a year before I have and no wedding plans are in the making for them.. They live together but thats about it. I dont think they are getting married anytime soon.
Posted by SIBride06
BY THE WAY.. They have both been engaged a year before I have and no wedding plans are in the making for them.. They live together but thats about it. I dont think they are getting married anytime soon.
Posted by cindyandkevin
I really don't think she meant anything personal by that. It's not so much that she has to 'ask permission' from her life partner to 'allow' her to be in your BP, I think it's more that this may be a financial strain for her/them and she wants to make sure she can swing this before committing to you.
Remember, in PA they don't make the kind of $$ we do here in NY; it's a big undertaking to get together the moolah for the inflated prices here when you're not used to it. Take it as a compliment that she's seriously thinking about it and not just jumping into a rushed 'yes', bc so many girls do that and then end up not really wanting to be apart of it and it ends up stressing the bride out at an even worse time.
Posted by SIBride06
She denyed her cousins request to for her to be a BM in her wedding because her Fh couldnt stomach the site of her walking down the asile with another man. (These were the exact words out of her mouth.. I couldnt make this stuff up!!) If its a money thing, I would understand.. and she knows I would understand. Theres more to this story.. I know it.
Posted by SexyEsq
This is JMO, but I think that you should consider yourself very lucky that she is taking the time to think about it and discuss with her SO. After reading all the horror stories on LIW about brides asking girls to step down, I think if your friend does say yes, you will not be one of those brides.
This is not to say I don't understand how you feel about your friendship having started long before this person came into her life (and possibly continuing after that person leaves), and wondering why she has to ask, but look at it this way . . . once you are married, how many things will you want to discuss with your hubby before making a decision? The fact that she is showing her partner this kind of consideration, to me, shows that she is committed to her relationship, the way you are committed to yours, and will not feel good about short-changing either you or her SO.
Posted by mccarm
Posted by SIBride06
She denyed her cousins request to for her to be a BM in her wedding because her Fh couldnt stomach the site of her walking down the asile with another man. (These were the exact words out of her mouth.. I couldnt make this stuff up!!) If its a money thing, I would understand.. and she knows I would understand. Theres more to this story.. I know it.
Sounds like the start of a plot for a Lifetime movie! Seriously, if those are her exact words, it sounds like her FI definitely has some control issues! I wouldn't take it personally if I were you - it sounds like she's got something going on...
Posted by JessicaM.
Posted by SexyEsq
This is JMO, but I think that you should consider yourself very lucky that she is taking the time to think about it and discuss with her SO. After reading all the horror stories on LIW about brides asking girls to step down, I think if your friend does say yes, you will not be one of those brides.
This is not to say I don't understand how you feel about your friendship having started long before this person came into her life (and possibly continuing after that person leaves), and wondering why she has to ask, but look at it this way . . . once you are married, how many things will you want to discuss with your hubby before making a decision? The fact that she is showing her partner this kind of consideration, to me, shows that she is committed to her relationship, the way you are committed to yours, and will not feel good about short-changing either you or her SO.
I agree too Janie. especially if she is getting married, money is definitely an issue that needs to be discussed before she can commit to spending it. that is the one thing I can think of that would give me pause and make me want to discuss it with my fh first...your talking about at least $1,000 here, and I would WANT to talk to him about it....after all her wedding is just as important to her as yours is to you.
it is to her credit that she is not just jumping and saying yes to only possibly disappoint you in the end.![]()
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Yeah, now that you explained the story about her not being a BM in her cousin's wedding, it sounds like her FH has control issues and she feels like she has to check in with him for everything. She might be in a cycle that she can't break, which is sad.
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Posted by SIBride06
No she's straight...lol I have no idea why she called him that. as for asking him before making her decision, I think that's total BS!! I have been friends with this girl long before her fioncee ever came into the picture. I know her very well, and I know for sure that the only reason why she would say no is not because she lives in PA, but because her FH would say 'NO'. I think its horrible.
I am so sorry that she cannot be in your BP. However, I do think that this girl are filled with issues try to look at it like she at least letting you know before hand she cannot participate. Instead of being mad with her just wish her all the best and try to keep her in your prayers so she will be able to pull through whatever she is going through. She needs a lot help and support obviously based on her situation with her FH.
