My cousin is in my bridal party and lately she has been making comments that if my best friend wasnt maid of honor, then would she have been chosen...not to mention she has made comments to another bridesmaid about the same thing...how do you deal with a jealous bridesmaid who wanted to be maid of honor but wasnt chosen cus she talked **** about my fiance behind my back to my friends and family and I found out about it...plus i would never trade who my maid of honor is, I didnt even have to think about choosing her.
DB2013
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I ran into this before I was even engaged! I have always known my sister would be my maid of honor whenever i got engaged. My best friend at the time would always say that when I get married she would be the real maid of honor. It was so annoying! This 'best friend' and I don't even speak anymore! Shows what type of maid of honor she would be!
Like you said you know why you picked your maid of honor for reason and you didn't even have to think about it.
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Pretty_In_Pink
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Why do they get sooo wrapped up in labels. The sad thing is most people dont know how to be a good MOH. So they end up slacking anyways. I ran into a similar situation too.
Irishbride16
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I would have a talk with her and say that your bridal party does not feel comfortable around you when she is saying stuff like that and then i would tell her the amount of work that on MOH had to do...and trust me its not easy at all...and just say to her that ' you are in my BM and thats a big deal to me '
U need to talk to her b/c it might get worse for you and the last thing you want is for her to stress you out ...good luck
teacherteacher
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I'd let her know that it's not an offense to not be MOH - it should be an honor to be a bridesmaid, but if she can't understand that maybe she shouldn't anymore. Like everyone said, keep your stress LOW.
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THANK GOD I'm not going through any of this with my girls! I'd be so annoyed. A person should feel honored to be chosen to be in a wedding party no matter what the title!
Sounds to me like this girl shouldn't be in the BP at all if she is so jealous and talks so much crap! Beware of her.. she may cause problems down the line.
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I already know she might be an issue...shes jealous that im getting married first, since shes older, and now jealous of not being MOH. I know shes my closest cousin and love her to death...but she has the biggest mouth and talks about everyone behind there back...if she says anything to me about the whole MOH issue,im deff going to have to put her in her place...hopefully i wont have to
Fanoula169
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yea i know thanks for the advice...she should actually be thanking me, cus my cousin is in the middle of closing on a house and i know money is gonna be tight for a while...and i would never put that extra burden upon her...but then again i still seam like that bad guy, figures right? lol
Fanoula169
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hopefully ur issue isnt as annoying as mine...i know that slack off and she would deff slack out of jealousy plus shes a horrible horrible organizer very last minute and never planned out...i cant deal with stuff like that i need to have things planned out in advance.
Fanoula169
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Exactly, I new without even have to think or debate about it. I love how the 'best friend' who absolutly must be the true MOH doesnt even talk to you...well ur sister is the best choice and if i had a sister that would have been an easy choice too. :)
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No matter what it's annoying. No matter what you do no one is going to be happy. There are reasons you did what you did and it's gonna be annoying to hear this all the time. Just try to ignore the comments as much as you can. It's hard but we all go through it. I'm sorry your going through it too
Fanoula169
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its alright, its not a wedding with out some drama, I'm just gonna choose to ignore her and not stress over it, hope ur ok too, hopefully the rest of this wedding planning won't drive us both crazy!
AngieJusty
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That is annoying. Try sitting down and talking to her about it. Let her know that you dont appreciate her saying all those things and that she should be honored to be a bridesmaid. I hope everything works out.
Fanoula169
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Theres no real talking to her, shes just gonna take it the wrong way...i think she just wants to start drama...for now i will ignore her, hopefully this jealousy won't continue but for now im just going to stick with wedding planning and my happiness ;) thanks for all the advice guys i greatly apreciate the support, nobody understands but you guys!
