bridesmaid problem

bridesmaid problem

my fh wanted his cousin in my wedding party. I used to be good friends with her in high school, so i said ok. she has given me problems from the start. she went late to order her bm dress and then after i told her she needed to put $100.00 down, she only put $5.00 and never went back to put down the rest that i know of. Anyway, i have been trying to get in touch with her for over 2 month. she doesnt even know i changed my wedding date. I try to e-mail her and she ignores me. i try to call her and she never calls me back. I dont know what to do, she is really stressing me out. I kicked her out once and she said she was sorry, she was depressed, so i gave her another chance. It's really ridiculous now. Even fh said to forget her. what would you do? I feel bad because i was good friends with her at one point, but she is just driving me crazy. I mean is it so hard to answer me back?????

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I would just lay it on the line- part of being a bm is to be there for support, and if you can't even get in touch with her then she is obviously not supporting you!!!

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Doesn't sound like she really wants to be a BM. I would suggest you give her a warning and another chance but being that you already did that I think it's time to let her go. If your FI feels the same as you then it should be an easy decision. Don't feel bad for what once was, take a look at what is going on now. You respected her apology and she still hasn't come through, and that's not very respectful of you.

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I would give her the boot.

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Thanks. I am taking your girls advice. I have had enough. I am going to write her an e-mail, since it's the only way to get in touch with her.

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Good Luck!!