bridesmaid problem

poisonivy918 Posted: Aug 25, 2007 02:28 PM

bridesmaid problem

I complained here a few months ago about 2 of my bridesmaids not getting their dresses. anyway now it's just 1.

I have been asking her since May to get her dress. everyone has gotten their dress. should I just tell her to forget it? I mean if she can't even get a dress what about other things? she doesn't seem dependable at all. she has a son but still it only takes a few minutes to go get a dress at david's bridal.

I don't know what to do. I am tired of harassing her over & over about getting the dress. I am tired of asking. I have 100s of other things going on. I basically don't have time to keep bothering her about it. should I just kick her out? how do I do that? I feel so bad. I can just see this becoming a big thing towards the wedding. her not coming to parties, not given money for things, or showing up late to the wedding. it feels like she isn't taking my wedding seriously. she just keeps saying we have a year. it's actually 7 months now! and 20 something days. it shouldn't matter how long I have. I asked her to do something since May. she hasn't done it.

what is the easiest way to kick someone out of the bridal party? or the nicest? I really think I should just do that. instead of given her another chance after she's had 50 of them. it's always oh next week.

TJ22908 Posted: Aug 25, 2007 02:35 PM

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I would talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her that you don't think it's going to work out with her in the wedding since she doesn't seem to care about it. See how she reacts and if she really cares then she will get off her a$$ and get the dress if not it wasn't meant to be for her to be in your wedding..Good Luck!!!

luna bride x Posted: Aug 25, 2007 02:39 PM

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i think you should tell her how you feel too.. maybe once she sees how serious you are she'll react differently..

Katie33 Posted: Aug 25, 2007 02:43 PM

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I actually had the same problem. Finally I just told her 'Im ordering all the dresses by ----. If you dont get it by then, then there is nothing I can do'. It turned into a small arguement, but she came through, and turned out to be really helpful as the day came closer.

jeanne08 Posted: Aug 25, 2007 03:10 PM

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tell her how you feel and ask her why she hasn't gone to get it yet...maybe she's having $ problems but is too embarassed to talk about it.

And that if she's still going to be in the wedding she needs to get her dress now b/c everyone else has it already and you want to make sure they don't stop making/selling that dress before she finally goes to get it.

Good luck!

poisonivy918 Posted: Aug 25, 2007 03:14 PM

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Posted by jeanne08

tell her how you feel and ask her why she hasn't gone to get it yet...maybe she's having $ problems but is too embarassed to talk about it.

And that if she's still going to be in the wedding she needs to get her dress now b/c everyone else has it already and you want to make sure they don't stop making/selling that dress before she finally goes to get it.

Good luck!

been there done that with her. she goes out partying all the time between here & nyc. now she's saying because her grandma died she's broke. so of course I feel bad. it just always seems like a new excuse. or oh next week I can do it. yet never happens.