Bridesmaid Problems!! HELP!!

Brittainy Posted: Jul 28, 2009 01:34 PM

Bridesmaid Problems!! HELP!!

OK,, I am new to this cite..it was recommended and I NEED HELP!!!
My brother is a groomsman in our wedding and so I had asked his girlfriend of 3 years to be a BM in our wedding..Didn't think there would be any issues!However, my brother is a little flighty.
Well, my bro called and asked if there was any way that I could get her out of the wedding. Apparently they are having trouble in 'paradise' and he dosn't feel that there will be any reconciliation!!!!!!!

What do I do? Isn't it rude to call someone and say btw,,,I don't think I can use you as a BM??
I don't want to hurt her feelings, but if I do have to replace her I will have to find someone ASAP to get a dress in time.
PLEASE HELP
Britt

cateydee Posted: Jul 28, 2009 01:57 PM

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can't you wait to see how it turns out with her and your brother? if they break up dont you think she would remove herself from the BP? i personally would wait to see. also do you HAVE to replace her? i understand that you might want there to be even # of men and women, but wont that person you ask to replace her be insulted? cant you just stay with whatever BP you have?

Corinne Ann Posted: Jul 28, 2009 02:03 PM

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i would wait and see if they do break up... if they do then i am sure she will understand and to be honest i dont think shed want to be in the wedding anymore than you would want her to be.. ya know what i mean? just talk to her nicely and say that you still want to be friends (if you do) and im sure she will understand!

No harm for you in waiting... you dont have to pay for anything in reguards to the bridesmaids as of yet... so any money put out would be hers.... dress and etc... if they break up thats her problem not yours!

As far as getting a replacement... dont even worry! who cares if its uneven! No biggie! Thats better than insulting someone by choosing them as a B list bridesmaid!

I am glad you wrote this cause my bros gf and i are close and i would love to have her as a bm but since the wedding is 2 years away i am going to wait as long as possible b4 asking her!

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Jul 28, 2009 02:10 PM

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i agree, i would wait to see what happens with them. if they break up, then she will understand that she wont be a part of the wedding anymore.

if your brother feels this way, then he should deal with the situation, and leave you out of it. this isnt something you should stress over. If he wants to break up with her, he should just do it. I feel like he wants you to kick her out, so that its easier for him to break up with her, you know?

Do you need to replace her?

pa56 Posted: Jul 28, 2009 02:12 PM

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Have you formed a relationship with her outside of your brother? Will you continue to be friends with her if they break up? If not, then I see nothing wrong with removing her. I am sure she will be relieved.

jcreilly Posted: Jul 28, 2009 02:23 PM

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See if they break up most likly she will remove

LadyDuda81509 Posted: Jul 28, 2009 03:13 PM

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unless you have become good friends with her, and feel your relationship will continue, i would wait...if the only reason you asked her was because of your brother then i think she will prob even remove herself before you get the chance.

Tracey1979 Posted: Jul 28, 2009 04:37 PM

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Wait and see if they break up, and if they do, but she ordered her dress, make your brother give you the $$ to pay her back for the dress.

And the bridal party doesn't have to be even, mine's not!