Bridesmaid question

Bridesmaid question

So originally I wanted 5-6 girls and I now have 3. I have beeen going back and forth about asking 2 of the other girls that I really wanted.
One is my cousin and I know how she feels about being in pics and told her I wanted her in the BP but, I respected her and didnt ask. She was honored that I even thought of her but, I feel I should give her the option if she wants to or not. Cause I feel I answered for her. I wont be upset if she says no and of course I'll be sooo happy if she says yes.
The next person i s really good friend of mine. We dont hangout so much anymore but, that is fine with us. We know we dont have to hangout all the time to be great friends. I ended up not asking her cause of money situations that she has going on. But once again I want her to have the chance to say yes or no.
Do you think I should ask them?
Did I make any sense?

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If you would really like them to be a part of it, just ask them and let them know that you totally understand if they can't be in it and that they shouldn't feel bad to say no. Good luck!

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I totally agree with chicky, ask them, but tell them that in no way will you be angry if they can't do it. Let them know it's a big obligation so if they can't do it it's ok and that they will still play a huge part in your wedding!

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I agree to ask those that you want while letting them know that you understand if they can't.

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Thanks girls

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Now FH is mad because he only has 2 guys!!!!

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I'm uneven too... Chris... if you really wanted them you wouldnt even question it. JMHO!

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I agree with the women above. Ask them, explain if you feel the need to why you didnt ask them orig. and give them the option with no hard feelings either way. I have a similar situation with a dear friend i dont see all the time and is a young single mom so money is tight but Ive actually known her forever and want her. I have six and FH has six and FH thinks it is a lot already (maybe it is) but whats 2 more people!!! FH even has a dear friend -same situation- he could and had thought about asking! Just be true to your heart and you'll know what you want and need to do. Goodluck!!!

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what do you have to loose? just go for it!!!

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Youc an ask and in the letter say exactly what you just said to us..that you know that the answer may be no, but that you just wanted them to know that they mean the world to you, and you just wanted to ask them...even if they did say yes or no.

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i just noticed...birdsmaid lol

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you should def ask your cuz and give her the option to say no ... I have a similar situation with one of my friends... I really wanted to ask her to be in my BP but the she lost her job around the same time I got engaged and (april) and hasnt found a job yet, so I still havent asked her because I know that she caught afford to be in it and she would feel bad saying no.