ok i know i should never vent about any of my girls... they have been nothing but helpful... however, i feel as though one of them, fogets this isnt her wedding/ marriage/ family. he constant opinions drive me crazy...
1- her opinion about when we should start a family- none of her business.
2- that i changed my first dance song... my fh wants something slower, and last time i checked it was our wedding. yes i love our first choice, but he has to love it also... so when she writes me a text ' you f.ing changed your song' i wanted tot write back... its none of your f.ing business... how mean am i?
okay sorry just feel like i cant vent anywhere else.. getting married in 2 days and cant tell the other girls how i feel cause i dont want it to get back to them... ugh..
oh and she has become instant bff;s with my oldest friend and so i really cant even vent to my closest friend from life about it... cause now who knows what they discuss... ugh triangles.
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ok i know i should never vent about any of my girls... they have been nothing but helpful... however, i feel as though one of them, fogets this isnt her wedding/ marriage/ family. he constant opinions drive me crazy...
1- her opinion about when we should start a family- none of her business.
2- that i changed my first dance song... my fh wants something slower, and last time i checked it was our wedding. yes i love our first choice, but he has to love it also... so when she writes me a text ' you f.ing changed your song' i wanted tot write back... its none of your f.ing business... how mean am i?
okay sorry just feel like i cant vent anywhere else.. getting married in 2 days and cant tell the other girls how i feel cause i dont want it to get back to them... ugh..
oh and she has become instant bff;s with my oldest friend and so i really cant even vent to my closest friend from life about it... cause now who knows what they discuss... ugh triangles.
Its one thing to give opinions... but 'you f,ing changed your song' is not an opinion! LOL... thats just straight up rude...
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dont worry she's just jealous. she probably wishes it was her wedding and wants to control everyhintg. shes living vicariously through you! lol it's YOUR big day that'st coming up and you need to just let it roll off ur back. Good luck getting married and congratulations!!!
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Seems to me like she is jealous of you!!! She is such a bridesmaidzilla!!!!! If that is even a word!!l lol
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Definitely sounds like she is jealous of you. Just relax and don't even talk to her for the next few days. She should know better than to be a b!tch a few days before someone's wedding.
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UGH. My FMIL is like this. Try to take it all with a grain of salt....I know, easier said than done.
try to limit the info you give. That's what I try to do. I HATE when people give unwanted, unsolicited advice!!!
jeswedding
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thank you girls for letting me vent... i feel horrible about venting but i know if i hold it in.. i will just become more frustrated... ' ugh
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Sorry you are going through this. Her response regarding your song was a little uncalled for. I hope things work out. Congrats on getting married and good luck with the rest of your planning.
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thank you girls for letting me vent... i feel horrible about venting but i know if i hold it in.. i will just become more frustrated... ' ugh
Its better that you vented. You dont´want to keep that in and have all those negative feelings the day of your wedding. Just relax and take it in stride. I have found that people usually act that way for these reasons:
if they´re married - either they didn´t have the wedding they wanted, or they wish they could relive those moments if they´re single - it starts hitting them that everyone else is getting married and they aren´t or they wonder why they cant find a guy (basically jealousy)
Just brush it off, because whatever the reason I don´t think its meant anything negative towards you in particular Just realize at this moment you are going through a wonderful time in your life and others aren´t a little jealousy is normal Its kinda like you have to treat it like a less fortunate person you feel bad about (not realy the wording i wanted to use but hopefully you understand)
of coarse you will also run into the people who are just controlling b*tchs!!
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dont worry she's just jealous. she probably wishes it was her wedding and wants to control everyhintg. shes living vicariously through you! lol it's YOUR big day that'st coming up and you need to just let it roll off ur back. Good luck getting married and congratulations!!!
ITA!!!! don't let her ruin YOUR wedding day!!! Enjoy and Best of Luck!!
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Like someone else said. I would limit what you tell her and even limit your phone calls with her. If she says something that irritates you politely say you have to go and hang up.
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While I absolutely agree with you that this girl's behavior is rude, I am guessing that if you chose her to be a bridesmaid that you know this girl well and that this sort of behavior from her can't be so much of a surprise to you. I have a bidesmaid somewhat similar to this. She is is bluntly honest about how she feels, which can sometimes be taken as her bring rude and sometimes it is, but I like people who are very straight with me so I don't mind it. She says things to me occassionally that piss me off so I make some snide comment back to her which lets her know to back off.
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While I absolutely agree with you that this girl's behavior is rude, I am guessing that if you chose her to be a bridesmaid that you know this girl well and that this sort of behavior from her can't be so much of a surprise to you. I have a bidesmaid somewhat similar to this. She is is bluntly honest about how she feels, which can sometimes be taken as her bring rude and sometimes it is, but I like people who are very straight with me so I don't mind it. She says things to me occassionally that piss me off so I make some snide comment back to her which lets her know to back off.
Honestly...I don't fully agree with this. I think that weddings bring out the worst in people, unfortunately. I've seen girls with great relationships have them fall apart because one or the other goes psyyyyyycho (either Bridezilla or Bridesmaidzilla or jealous or whatever)
Anyway...this girl sounds uber jealous. Don't let her spoil your day because in the end you'll be the one up there marrying FH and she'll be the one holding your bouquet, helping you when there's gunk on your shoe and lifting your dress so you can use the bathroom.
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Don't let these people with nothing nice to say and opinions on everything get under your skin. This is Your wedding! do whatever you and FH want to do and change whatever you want to! Best wishes on your day tomorrow-Enjoy every moment and ignore anyone trying to bring you down.
marinai7
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Don't let her or anyone ruin your day. You planned for this day for sooo long, so just enjoy it. Congrats.
Teachgirl
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Why are some of you friends with people who feel it necessary to be rude for no reason? I stay away from people like this.
