Bridesmaid Vent...ugh

1 of my bridesmaids has not responded to any of my emails, returned my calls or texts or ever asked/or even seemed interested in being in my wedding. it's not my side of the family and it's kind of upsetting me b/c she needs to order her dress by the end of this month.

i really feel like she doesn't want to be apart of this and i don't know what to do. i've done everything to make things easier for her and i am sooooo patient and easy going.

what happens in these situations??

I'd stop being soo soo nice about it. I'm the nicest person EVERY and will try and avoid confrontation at all costs but at a point, for your own well being, you gotta say something to her. You don't necessarily have to be a b*tch about it but i'd be a little more stern. I'd call and call and text and text and if she doesn't respond then i'd leave her a voicemail saying that if she doesn't order the dress by a certain date, and doesn't contact you about it, then she's out of the wedding.

I can understand people not having money and being embarassed about it but as a matter of common courtsey she should at least respond to you. If she's going to say she's been too busy to respond to you... it's a little bit of bs. It takes 2 seconds to send a text saying, 'hey sorry I haven't gotten back to you about the dresses. I've been really busy and will contact you asap.'

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I'd stop being soo soo nice about it. I'm the nicest person EVERY and will try and avoid confrontation at all costs but at a point, for your own well being, you gotta say something to her. You don't necessarily have to be a b*tch about it but i'd be a little more stern. I'd call and call and text and text and if she doesn't respond then i'd leave her a voicemail saying that if she doesn't order the dress by a certain date, and doesn't contact you about it, then she's out of the wedding.

I can understand people not having money and being embarassed about it but as a matter of common courtsey she should at least respond to you. If she's going to say she's been too busy to respond to you... it's a little bit of bs. It takes 2 seconds to send a text saying, 'hey sorry I haven't gotten back to you about the dresses. I've been really busy and will contact you asap.'

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You really are 100% right, b/c even like you said, no matter what i would NEVER ignore someone, out of respect, just let me know...seriously i am going to have to reach that ultimatum, crazy but what am i going to do!

find another bridesmaid?!

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Posted by Juliebean

If she responds to your emails I would just talk to her before she orders her dress....good luck

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that's a good point too

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Posted by sprinkle23

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I'd stop being soo soo nice about it. I'm the nicest person EVERY and will try and avoid confrontation at all costs but at a point, for your own well being, you gotta say something to her. You don't necessarily have to be a b*tch about it but i'd be a little more stern. I'd call and call and text and text and if she doesn't respond then i'd leave her a voicemail saying that if she doesn't order the dress by a certain date, and doesn't contact you about it, then she's out of the wedding.

I can understand people not having money and being embarassed about it but as a matter of common courtsey she should at least respond to you. If she's going to say she's been too busy to respond to you... it's a little bit of bs. It takes 2 seconds to send a text saying, 'hey sorry I haven't gotten back to you about the dresses. I've been really busy and will contact you asap.'

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You really are 100% right, b/c even like you said, no matter what i would NEVER ignore someone, out of respect, just let me know...seriously i am going to have to reach that ultimatum, crazy but what am i going to do!

find another bridesmaid?!

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umm.. I'm not the biggest fan of adding in bridal party members 6 months before. If it's a particular situation and it's fully explained to them then yeah... MAYBE ask someone else. If it were me though, i'd just leave it as is and have 1 less bridesmaid.

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Posted by AdriandSteve

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Posted by sprinkle23

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I'd stop being soo soo nice about it. I'm the nicest person EVERY and will try and avoid confrontation at all costs but at a point, for your own well being, you gotta say something to her. You don't necessarily have to be a b*tch about it but i'd be a little more stern. I'd call and call and text and text and if she doesn't respond then i'd leave her a voicemail saying that if she doesn't order the dress by a certain date, and doesn't contact you about it, then she's out of the wedding.

I can understand people not having money and being embarassed about it but as a matter of common courtsey she should at least respond to you. If she's going to say she's been too busy to respond to you... it's a little bit of bs. It takes 2 seconds to send a text saying, 'hey sorry I haven't gotten back to you about the dresses. I've been really busy and will contact you asap.'

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You really are 100% right, b/c even like you said, no matter what i would NEVER ignore someone, out of respect, just let me know...seriously i am going to have to reach that ultimatum, crazy but what am i going to do!

find another bridesmaid?!

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umm.. I'm not the biggest fan of adding in bridal party members 6 months before. If it's a particular situation and it's fully explained to them then yeah... MAYBE ask someone else. If it were me though, i'd just leave it as is and have 1 less bridesmaid.

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I hear you completely. People can be insulted then..i know, you're right. better to just leave it.

ughhhh!! you try to do the right thing and look what happens.

thank you for your advice