Posted by dancerandchef
They have a nice selection of Bridesmaid/MOH handbooks at Borders. I hope that I helped you out.
~dancer~
I do not have a book but I have this list that I am providing to my MOH.
Hope it helps
Maid/Matron of Honor
The maid/matron of honor is part worker bee, part emotional lifeboat. Chosen for her energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion qualities, she should also remember that listening to the bride, making her laugh, and offering emotional and logistical support is also part of the honor attendant package. Listing of your duties includes:
• Offer to assist with wedding planning even if you know she will say no
• To be the bride's right hand on her wedding day. Is she nervous? Talk to her and try to keep her calm. Help her to be stress free, but don't strong-arm other people who may want to offer her their help as well.
• To host the bridal shower. This will involve planning a theme, finding a location, getting a cake, inviting the friends of the bride, and more or less throwing the kind of party that screams 'Yay! You're getting married!' You may want to communicate with the bride's mother when planning the shower, as she will no doubt have some plans of her own.
• To plan and host the bachelorette party! Talk to the bride about what she would like to do. Yes, you're supposed to surprise her, but you have to remember that, above all, this is her night. If you and the other party attendees want male entertainment, but the bride does not, don't force her to do it anyway. The bachelorette party is supposed to be fun for everyone, especially the bride, as it is her last night out as a single woman!
• During the ceremony, you're responsible for holding the bride's bouquet and helping bustle the bride's gown after the ceremony. Be sure to ask before the ceremony about instructions on the bustle, as some of the more elaborate bustles can have more than twenty hooks!
• During the reception, you're expected to make a speech. Say something witty, but sentimental. Keep it upbeat, and look at the bride and groom as you speak. You are toasting to them! Remember not to say things that are too personal or embarrassing. If you're not ready for public speaking, practicing your speech over and over again will help.
