Bridesmaids please help! i need advice!

ok so here goes 1 my sisiter whom i love is my matron of honor but she is so picky i have done everything to help her feel more comfortable the BM dresses i picked r from davids bridal all i did was pick a color (victorian lilac) and they can pick ANY long dresses available in that color there r i think 12 available no including the jr Bm dresses she is telling me that she is going to go to DB and just get a swatch and match the color to a dress from lord and taylor does anyone else think that rediculous and hurtful or am i just being rediculous myself and one other thing i have another BM who lives in FL and she has failed to do anything she has supposed to do i have gotten to the poit where i no longer want her to be in my bridal party again what should i do? am i being rediculous?

What about having her in a lighter shade of purple that would coordinate? A lot of girls do that so the MOH stands out. Just make sure the fabric is the same or close...

If you can stress about one less thing - I would do it. JMO

I don't think you are being ridiculous at all! You are being more than generous giving her a choice of colors and price ranges...I am going with victorian lilac from DB too so believe me I know that there is a wide range of choices in that color...There's no way she's going to be able to match the color exactly at Lord and Taylor's, either. What's her deal?? Sorry I can't give any specific advice, but I can tell you that i definitely don't think you are being ridiculous! Good luck!!

You are not being ridiculous at all! Tell your sister she has 12 dresses to choose from and one of those will just have to do !!!! There's no way she'll be able to exactly match your other BM dress colors!
As for the BM from FL...it's tough to do stuff when you live far away, but maybe you need to talk to her about what is expected of her, or have another BM talk to her about it! HTH!

IMO-she's your sister, so you can tell her 'look this is my color, pick a d a m n dress from DB, it's not an option'. As for your friend in FL, if she is not in the BP will she still be attending the wedding? If not, then tell her you had to cut back a guy so you have to cut back a girl and she's the one (sorry). Or, tell her how you feel. tell her it's hard for you to work like this (so far away). And you need her support. If it's not something she can do right now, then now is the time to know.

Good luck

Well, she could do darker. Just choose something that compliments the lilac. And put your foot down, b/c there are many more road blocks to come w/ BM's I'm afraid