Last night, I had a get together with my best friends from college (two of whom are in the bridal party). We start talking about weddings and one of my BM is going on and on about how she can not understand how people 'waste' so much money on big weddings . . . blah blah blah. HELLO . . . I am getting married in 6 months and having a relatively average size wedding, which is definitely costing me quite a bit. When she talks like this, I feel as though she is looking down on my choice for a wedding and with this in mind, I wonder why she would even want to be part of my bridal party. It is very frustrating . . I know she does care about me, but I wish she would keep her opinions to herself.
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Wow, I'm sorry about that. Some people don't realize how their words will affect others!
My sister and MOH said to me on the phone the other day, ' I decided I'm not getting married. It's all a big joke. Marriages these days don't last.'
Disregard the comments and go on planning a fabulous dream wedding!!!
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I'm sorry to hear that When people make comments like that, just ignore them. Its SO noth worth getting upset over months before you're wedding. Trust me! My sister in laws and cousins put me through a living hell before my wedding and I tried and tried not to let them get to me, they did, only because, Im weak and I couldn't hand it! Just ignore them! Its OK to spend alot of money on a wedding! Why the heck not - it happens once in a lifetime! Cheer up
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I honestly think people are subconsciously either jealous orsomething and say hurtful things because they know it will get to people....or they just don't have manners! The trick is to brush it off your shoulders....I know its so much easier said than done and I am having similar issues but just remember its about you and your choices and no one else.
Feel better!
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i dont think your friend said that to hurt u .....u should not take other peoples opinions personally especially if ur not sure if they are targeting u ......many people have opinions on wedding and are entitled to it......so what if ur having a moderate sized wedding its wat u want .....whats good for u its not good for everyone..l..sry but its just my opinion...your friend loves u and that should be whats important to u...not her opinion on weddings....sry if im beign to up front...but little things like these are not worth u getting upset for....,
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Sorry to hear about that :( I am going through the same thing. One of my bridesmaid told me how she doesnt like a certain kind of dress. It turns out that is what my dress is exactly like. :) I guess you just dont expect to hear your 'bridal party' talk bad about anything you are doing for your wedding. I am trying not to be so sensitive about things,but its hard :(
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I'm sorry to hear that. Some people just don't know how to mind their own f'in business!!
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it's just jealousy. You have your big blow out wedding and enjoy every minute of it!! Dont let people like that get ya down!
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First of all, is your BM married? If so, then it was her choice to have a small wedding if she did....If she had a big wedding, then she is a hypocrite...And if she is not married...she does not know what it feels like to have a ring on your finger and want a perfect, big, beautiful wedding....In other words...like you said....keep your opinions to yourself....
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Sorry to hear that but just try to ignore them...People ALWAYS do stuff like that, whether its about a wedding or not...You know how many times people will sit there and say stuff in front of me about OMG its so stupid to have such a big bp UHMMm I HAVE A BIG BP and they know this, or its so stupid to spend that much money on a wedding or who has such big weddings, meanwhile i have a very big guest list. It's annoying but only people unhappy with their lives will make such negative comments to another person.
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Posted by Summer07Bride
Last night, I had a get together with my best friends from college (two of whom are in the bridal party). We start talking about weddings and one of my BM is going on and on about how she can not understand how people 'waste' so much money on big weddings . . . blah blah blah. HELLO . . . I am getting married in 6 months and having a relatively average size wedding, which is definitely costing me quite a bit. When she talks like this, I feel as though she is looking down on my choice for a wedding and with this in mind, I wonder why she would even want to be part of my bridal party. It is very frustrating . . I know she does care about me, but I wish she would keep her opinions to herself.
I hate when people say things like that. I say, keep ur comments to urself!
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I think a lot of it is jealousy. It's hard to be friends with a bride who is so excited and happy if you wish you were in that situation. Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure when she is in your shoes her opinion will change!
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Maybe she's jealous? Sometimes people try to talk generally about something, but they are really trying to aim it at you without outright saying it! Sorry!!!!!
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Don't let it bother you... people sometimes just don't think about what they say before they say it. Unfortunately this weekend my grandpa died and we had his wake.... and 3 people (3!!!!) on separate occasions came up to me solely to say 'oh i'm so sorry your grandfather won't be alive to see your wedding' People are just idiots and don't think, so don't take it personally, she was prob just oblivious to what she was saying and who she was saying it too
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Posted by Marchbride07
I honestly think people are subconsciously either jealous orsomething and say hurtful things because they know it will get to people....or they just don't have manners! The trick is to brush it off your shoulders....I know its so much easier said than done and I am having similar issues but just remember its about you and your choices and no one else.
Feel better!
I really agree w/you!!
nrgbunny
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TO ME IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE IS JEALOUS!
daniebc16
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poopoo on her, she is just jealous
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i totally understand you, my best friend does this to me all the time its VERY annoying, ive never confronted her about it, i just let it go, perhaps some people dont think before they speak? or they are subconsciously jealous, or whatever the reason is...dont let it ruin YOUR day...have the wedding of your dreams
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Posted by Summer07Bride
Last night, I had a get together with my best friends from college (two of whom are in the bridal party). We start talking about weddings and one of my BM is going on and on about how she can not understand how people 'waste' so much money on big weddings . . . blah blah blah. HELLO . . . I am getting married in 6 months and having a relatively average size wedding, which is definitely costing me quite a bit. When she talks like this, I feel as though she is looking down on my choice for a wedding and with this in mind, I wonder why she would even want to be part of my bridal party. It is very frustrating . . I know she does care about me, but I wish she would keep her opinions to herself.
Date twin don't worry she wish it was her. Enjoy your planning. You made the right decision to do something you want and that is that.
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Screw that she is only saying things out of JEALOUSY!!!
