Bridesmaids...what is their real role for your....

Ab12345 Posted: Nov 14, 2003 05:23 PM

Bridesmaids...what is their real role for your....

wedding. This may sound silly but really what is their purpose besides looking pretty next to you. My aunt was telling me i shouldn't have any bridesmaids just a maid of honor as the bridesmaids takes away from your day and they really don't have a purpose. Do you agree with that?

Kelly9904 Posted: Nov 14, 2003 05:29 PM

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Besides looking pretty, the BMs are supposed to be your moral support throughout the entire process. They can also help with alot of the various tasks, like assembling invitations, placecards, etc. Additionally, it is said to be poor etiquette for any family member of the bride to host a shower (it seems as if they are asking for gifts) so the MOH and BMs are supposed to host your bridal shower and bachelorette as well!
I like having more than one person up there because those are the women who mean the most to me and have been there to see our relationship unfold! I also dont think it takes away from the MOH. You can make her stand out with a different dress, bo'k, flowers in her hair, etc.

Good luck!

HearzBellz Posted: Nov 14, 2003 05:30 PM

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my BMs have been pretty useless so far. A few of them live away from NY, so they are released from any duties, but the other 2 are driving me nuts..... Kinda wished I had a smaller party myself. Only my MOH & my friend have been of any help.

What-Now Posted: Nov 14, 2003 05:30 PM

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I only had a MofH, my sister. It was the very best decision ever! i didnt want to torture my friends one of whom was very pregnant at the time, make then go to dress fittings, spend money on dresses,shoes and god knows what else! There were there at my wedding cheering me on, wearign thir normal clothes and they were also in a lot of picures! But, really, you only need one person with you on that day to help you out!

HearzBellz Posted: Nov 14, 2003 05:31 PM

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Also... the ones that P!sss me off that day will be on 'bathroom-dress-helping-duty!'

luvsun27 Posted: Nov 15, 2003 07:06 AM

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I agree with WhatNow?. I am only having a MOH (my sister). My friends and SIL have been great...asking me what I need help with. My SIL and my best friend both took the 2 days off before the wedding to help me run around and do the last minute things.

I think you can have as many people as your want in your BP or as little...you're real friends will help because they want to...not because they are obligated to.

xjulietx Posted: Nov 15, 2003 10:27 AM

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My bridesmaids will be there for emotional support. They will hold my hand when I feel dizzy or overwhelmed, they will run interference at the wedding if anything gets out of hand, they will organize a shower for me (even though my mom will pay), they will hopefully help me with things that need help.