broken Engagement?

Hello,
I am on under a different name because my fiance logs in sometimes. Does anyone know of (or is) a bride who has broken off or considered breaking off their engagement? I am feeling so anxious about it and haven't been able to decide whether my feelings are just anxiety over such a big change or if its a warning. i tend to be pessimistic, so i don't want to ruin this if it's just nerves. i already feel i'm ruining everything because i've been so mean lately, even i wouldn't want to marry me!

ETA
I posted too quickly. I was hoping I could FM someone who has been in my situation (reconsidering the engagment/marriage). I know I should talk to a professional, and I will. I just thought I would ask here.

TIA

theres a liw'er who cancelled her wedding about 2 months or so before. If you do a search hopefully you can find it.

if its just nerves then that is normal...if its something like he doesn't make you happy, have alot of major issues then definitely really think which is the best decision for you

good luck

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Posted by maybebaby

i will take a look....thanks for your ideas on what to keep in mind when thinking about this, too. those are good thoughts.

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i think deep down inside you know whether or not its just nerves or whether its something serious. We all or i should say most of us get scared making such a huge change in our lives. I think its only normal for anything in our lives that will be such a drastic change. If its the 'omg one person for the rest of my life' type questions it just sounds like cold feet. If its, no matter how hard i try things just never are right and i am never happy or if he doesn't treat you the way you should be treated then thats different.

fh and I are going to 'talk' tonight. He says he's having cold feet but it may be more. All I can say is I'd rather brake off the engagement, know matterr how hard it may be, than get divorced in a year. GOOD LUCK. You need to take care of oyu and make sure you will be happy in the end. Professional help is ALWAYS a good idea. FM me if you feel I could help in any way.

I had a broken engagement 5 years ago. I broke it off a month before the wedding, and it was the most difficult decision I ever had to make. It was painful, and I had my share of doubts as to whether or not I made the right decison for a long time. But I have to say, I don't regret it at all. I knew deep in my heart, it was never meant to be, and had I gone through with the wedding, I would have never been happily married. I do believe it's normal to have anxiety as the wedding gets closer. My advice would be to spend time with yourself and search your heart and soul. Stay true to yourself and you can't make the wrong decison. I know that's easier said than done I also agree with the others to seek support from a professional....it can only help.

Best of luck to you.