brother problems...
So... after a whole lot of deliberating, FH and I decided NOT to have my brother as a groomsman.
A little background info: my brother and I fight... a lot.... and so one week we are BFF's and the next week we are completely PO'ed at each other. He's like that with everyone in my family though - thats just who he is. And when we fight, we really fight!
So, 5 years ago, my sister had him in her bridal party, and he complained & was all in a bad mood because he didnt feel included and he didnt know any of the guys.
So, yesterday he calls my mom and tells her that hes annoyed that i havent asked him or his wife to be in our bridal party. meanwhile, he has 2 kids who are both mama's boy/girls and would just whine the whole time for their mom if she was in it. And i didnt want a repeat from my sisters wedding of him being all grumpy. Soooo, what do i do. If i do ask him, it will be for all the wrong reasons... and if i dont ask him he'll hold one of his grudges and not talk to me for awhile again!!
it seems like a lose-lose situation to me.
We do want his family as part of the wedding - his wife is very involved in my planning & we wanted him to do a reading... and we wanted his kids to walk down the aisle too!
Sorry so long - but just trying to bring up all my points. what would you do???
A little background info: my brother and I fight... a lot.... and so one week we are BFF's and the next week we are completely PO'ed at each other. He's like that with everyone in my family though - thats just who he is. And when we fight, we really fight!
So, 5 years ago, my sister had him in her bridal party, and he complained & was all in a bad mood because he didnt feel included and he didnt know any of the guys.
So, yesterday he calls my mom and tells her that hes annoyed that i havent asked him or his wife to be in our bridal party. meanwhile, he has 2 kids who are both mama's boy/girls and would just whine the whole time for their mom if she was in it. And i didnt want a repeat from my sisters wedding of him being all grumpy. Soooo, what do i do. If i do ask him, it will be for all the wrong reasons... and if i dont ask him he'll hold one of his grudges and not talk to me for awhile again!!
it seems like a lose-lose situation to me.
We do want his family as part of the wedding - his wife is very involved in my planning & we wanted him to do a reading... and we wanted his kids to walk down the aisle too!
Sorry so long - but just trying to bring up all my points. what would you do???
