Buying a wedding gift NOT from the registry...

pa56 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 05:48 PM

Buying a wedding gift NOT from the registry...

My friend registered at Neiman Marcus. The tax and shipping on the item I want to buy increases the total by $34! So a $270 gift is now over $300.

As a bride, if a guest purchased an item that you registered for but it wasn't directly from your registry would you be annoyed? I found another website that has the same item but free shipping and no tax, and free gift wrap! I would much rather save my $34 and buy the gift from this other site. Thoughts? Would you be suspicious why I didn't purchase from Neiman Marcus? Would you care?

I had received a registered gift but not from where I registered for it, and while it was a pain to manually delete the item from the registry, I really didn't care. I know this person got married 3 months before me and probably had a lot of gift cards from Bloomies and so bought my china from Bloomies and not from Macy's, where I registered for it.

Ivansgirl Posted: Jun 18, 2009 06:01 PM

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If it is the same brand and everything but cheaper from somewhere else i would get it from the other place. I would respect that. She can always go back and take if off her registry herself. The only thing you risk is someone else getting it for her.

FutureMrsG Posted: Jun 18, 2009 06:02 PM

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I would be very happy to receive a gift that I wanted even if it was not bought directly off the registry- Save your $34 and buy the gift online.

xosweetiexo Posted: Jun 18, 2009 06:06 PM

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I would be very happy, but def. provide her with a gift receipt just in case.

Dr Meg Posted: Jun 18, 2009 06:23 PM

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I think it is fine. Can you contact someone in her BP or her Mom to have the item deleted from her registry, so that she doesn't get duplicated?

08JulyBride Posted: Jun 18, 2009 06:46 PM

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I don't know about Neiman Marcus, but I've done what you're saying and called the registry store (done it for BBB & Macy's) and just said I forgot to tell the checkout person in the store that it was a registry item.. they asked for the name and/or registry number and marked it purchased for me.

little j Posted: Jun 18, 2009 07:20 PM

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Posted by 08JulyBride

I don't know about Neiman Marcus, but I've done what you're saying and called the registry store (done it for BBB & Macy's) and just said I forgot to tell the checkout person in the store that it was a registry item.. they asked for the name and/or registry number and marked it purchased for me.

oooo...nice !!

sophisticat13 Posted: Jun 18, 2009 08:21 PM

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I received some of the gifts I had on my registry from other stores. It was fine...I was happy that it saved my friends money Don't worry!

Watever143 Posted: Jun 19, 2009 08:37 AM

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I would buy it and tell her mom or someone if it isnt a surprise to tel lto take it off bc someone purchased but somewhere else.....That is wat I was telling my mom but no one ended up doing it but I wouldnt have care if they did

pa56 Posted: Jun 19, 2009 09:17 AM

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Posted by Watever143

I would buy it and tell her mom or someone if it isnt a surprise to tel lto take it off bc someone purchased but somewhere else.....That is wat I was telling my mom but no one ended up doing it but I wouldnt have care if they did

I don't think anyone has the password to her registry except her so no one will be able to make changes.

I think I'll just order the gift from the other site and send along a gift receipt.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Jun 19, 2009 09:30 AM

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i received a gift that didnt come from bbb altho it was on the list... the person was getting a better deal on a dual blender/food processor at costco... so they just let me know so i could take it off the registry.... no biggie... i didnt care.... but def the person has to know bc she'll end up with 2 of the same item!

susannjames10 Posted: Jun 19, 2009 09:35 AM

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I wouldnt care at all if someone did this...i would want them to get it for the cheaper price! but like some other people said, i would just be nervous someone else would get her the same thing off the registry

MrsLarrea2B Posted: Jun 19, 2009 08:57 PM

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Even if she did get the same thing from someone else, she could always go back to the store and explain that there must have been a fluke and she received 2 of the same gift. Trust me it's no big deal at all!

MrsDR2010 Posted: Jun 19, 2009 09:04 PM

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Posted by Dr Meg

I think it is fine. Can you contact someone in her BP or her Mom to have the item deleted from her registry, so that she doesn't get duplicated?

ITA.....My sister did that for my baby shower. I registered at a couple places giving people options with prices and if it was purchased at one place then we took i off. I would def. contact someone and ask them to take it off.

MrsDR2010 Posted: Jun 19, 2009 09:05 PM

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Posted by pa56

Posted by Watever143

I would buy it and tell her mom or someone if it isnt a surprise to tel lto take it off bc someone purchased but somewhere else.....That is wat I was telling my mom but no one ended up doing it but I wouldnt have care if they did

I don't think anyone has the password to her registry except her so no one will be able to make changes.

I think I'll just order the gift from the other site and send along a gift receipt.

Tell them to tell her that someone purchased it and she should take it off. She is probably stalking er registry anyway