How did your fh behave when it was getting closer to the wedding. We have exactly 30 days..and mines is acting like a lunartic.
All of a sudden he is nerves, very quiet, thinking to himself. All he tells me is that he is starting to get nervous. It is very scary to not know what the other person is thinking. I already ask him, if he okay. He barely answers. This is the first Gemini man I have dated, and I tell you it feels like I am dating 2 guys. Split personality. One is loving the other is standoffish.
Thank for listening
DrmnBlnd
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Mine was very calm until the night before and then he was a lunatic. He was just a bundle of nerves, and couldn't sit still. At the ceremony, he cried first, and was shaking the whole time. After the ceremony was over, he was fine.
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ALL YOU CAN DO IS JUST BE THERE FOR HIM AND ADVENTUALLY HE WILL TELL YOU... IM LIKE HIM, I GET NERVOUS AND QUIET AND MY FH ASKS WHAT ABOUT, AND ITS JUST SOMETHING YOU CANT REALLY PINPOINT A REAL REASON- ITS JUST KINDA THERE AND ITS NOT A BAD NERVOUS- JUST A LIFE CHANGING NERVOUSE... ALL WILL WORK OUT--- GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES..
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Yep - -I hear ya! My FH is starting to freak a little. He's acting out in strange ways.... like testing me. Every week it's some new hair-brained thing. This week, it's a new PUPPY. Last week he was gonna buy a Lexus. Right now, there is a new puppy in our house (when he can't even take care of the other dog he has!) but thankfully there isn't a new Lexus in the driveway! He is seriously losing it. My FH is a Libra though.... Don't worry, I think your FH will come around back to normal.... geez, I sure hope MINE does before he decides to buy a small island....
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I just feel like he is spending time with the boys a lot and going golfing a lot, and when I tell him we never see each other he says...'We'll be seeing each other for the rest of our lives..' I think he feels like this is his last summer of freedom....Whatever that means!?!?! Men are so strange!!!
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haha I have 2 years and FH is acting that way. He wants to hang with the guys more since we're engaged. When we're married he feels he'll be with me 24/7 and won't have freedom to go see stupid sci fi movies... :-P
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The month before our wedding DH and I got into more little tiffs than I care to remember. Nerves are running high and it just really starts to sink in that this is it. don't worry it passes
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Posted by JimmysBride
Yep - -I hear ya! My FH is starting to freak a little. He's acting out in strange ways.... like testing me. Every week it's some new hair-brained thing. This week, it's a new PUPPY. Last week he was gonna buy a Lexus. Right now, there is a new puppy in our house (when he can't even take care of the other dog he has!) but thankfully there isn't a new Lexus in the driveway! He is seriously losing it. My FH is a Libra though.... Don't worry, I think your FH will come around back to normal.... geez, I sure hope MINE does before he decides to buy a small island....
LOL I'm a Libra...I can't make decisions if my life depended on it! but at that same time when I can't I wanna do this
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I just feel like he is spending time with the boys a lot and going golfing a lot, and when I tell him we never see each other he says...'We'll be seeing each other for the rest of our lives..' I think he feels like this is his last summer of freedom....Whatever that means!?!?! Men are so strange!!!
Oh yeah... my FH went through THAT phase last month... every friday he wanted to go out with some other clique of guys... same 'reasoning'.... we got into a good one in the parking lot of BB&B after registering because he rushed us so he could go out and have a beer with a Judge... I didn't say no, I just wanted a beer too!! He FLIPPPED out talking about 'I can go out and have a beer with my friends if I want to ....' blah blah...
It was shortly after that fight that I realized this was his way of freaking out a little about the wedding...anyway it passed pretty quickly after I pointed at him and, smiling a huge grin said 'YOU'RE FREAKING OUT!' Also, making my own plans to go out into the city with my friends fixed that right up! The new phase though apparently is buying things, expensive and stressful things....
Bride2B93
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Posted by Bride2B93
I just feel like he is spending time with the boys a lot and going golfing a lot, and when I tell him we never see each other he says...'We'll be seeing each other for the rest of our lives..' I think he feels like this is his last summer of freedom....Whatever that means!?!?! Men are so strange!!!
Oh yeah... my FH went through THAT phase last month... every friday he wanted to go out with some other clique of guys... same 'reasoning'.... we got into a good one in the parking lot of BB&B after registering because he rushed us so he could go out and have a beer with a Judge... I didn't say no, I just wanted a beer too!! He FLIPPPED out talking about 'I can go out and have a beer with my friends if I want to ....' blah blah...
It was shortly after that fight that I realized this was his way of freaking out a little about the wedding...anyway it passed pretty quickly after I pointed at him and, smiling a huge grin said 'YOU'RE FREAKING OUT!' Also, making my own plans to go out into the city with my friends fixed that right up! The new phase though apparently is buying things, expensive and stressful things....
I am finally starting to realize that it is a phase also but it was hard initially not to take it personally!
I hope your FH gets out of his new phase soon or else you are going to have puppies driving a lexus!!!
I just feel like guys never grow up sometimes!!
Best of Luck!! I guess next month my FH will be acting wacky in some new way...I'll be ready!!
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We had so many things to do he didn't have time to think. Maybe give him projects for the wedding and then he'll be more excited.
Is he nervous about the attention or about the marriage?
We also spent a lot of time with friends and family who are super supportive. Their excitement was infectious!
Are you getting nervous also? maybe he's feeding off of you...
hang in there!
Spitzergirl
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Hello,
Well this coming Sat. we are suppose to do all the flowers. He is paying for it. I don't know what is eating at him, if it is the attention he will recieve or just being married, to 1 person for the rest of your life.
Who knows? Men are so weird. I would like to go out myself, but there is really no time, for that. I hope it gets calm after the wedding.
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Mine DH was calm 30 days towards our wedding. However, the week of our wedding he was stressed out as it cannot be kept in a tight bottle any longer.
Spitzergirl
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Wow,...that means...he will start to smoke maybe 1 pack a day!!!
Mrs.Miller2b
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i have ten days and everyday he is like i can't wait, i am the one freaking out. its strange but maybe he will be nervous the night before. he has been the same the whole time.....
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How did your fh behave when it was getting closer to the wedding. We have exactly 30 days..and mines is acting like a lunartic. Thank for listening
well maybe 2 men is a good thing
seriously i understand its pre-wedding jitters mine is stubborn as in bull (he's a taurus) he is acting so cool but he has now started talking in his sleep...i'm trying to make out the words one wrong one and its curtains for him
all of us will go thru this, you guys will be fine!
