Ok.. I know you are all going to say NO! BUtttt ... this is not just for anyone.. This is a sort of fair weather friend I stupidly invited. We aren't close. He's very raunchy and out there of a personality. He has been invited to several events for me including recently my Birthday to which he said 'OK' when I asked him to come but then didn't show. When I asked him for his address for the STD's, he said to send it to his other friends addy (also invited) and when he asked if he could wear a big red fur coat (that I actually made and he bought from me) I told him it's an August wedding and black tie. He said he doesn't have a suit. Mainly, I don't think he has the interest in coming and plus I am afraid he will just not show and there are other people I realize lately I should really invite but can't afford to. I honestly don't know if he would realize if he doesn't get an invite in the mail...
Am I a ***** if I don't send an invite?
JaimeLin
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I think it's just a bad look to not send the invite. Hopefully he just wont come, and tell you ahead of time.
flynn14
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I actually sent a std to soemone and realized they shouldn't be invited. Tho I hve not seen them since i got engaged. If u see him in a more regular basis I would invite
alissacataldo
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This is always a tough one. I was told right when I got engaged to not send STDs to everyone on my list, because if we needed to cut people, it would be harder. Do you see him and/or talk to him pretty regularly? He may really get offended, which could cause you a lot more stress than needed before your wedding. I say just invite him and hope he says no. If he says yes, and then doesn't show, then you have to figure out if your price per person is worth the headache. He sounds like someone who will make a scene if he's not invited.
Gambigoo
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We have 2 people we sent stds to and are not inviting. FH coached with them. There was a huge blowout. They don't coach together anymore. Barely even talk, so I think it's kinda expected they won't be going. I know it doesn't follow ettiquette rules, but oh well!
There are a few people that got STDs that we will not be inviting to the wedding. We have not seen or spoken to them since before the STDs went out in November and in retrospect we really shouldnt have even sent them one but... we didn't think about it.
I don't even care. If they confront me I will flat out tell them my reasons.
StarIzInkd
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Yeah I'm trying to figure it out. I may ask my best friend/BM who is friends with him and with his BFF who is invited to see if he plans on coming. I don't have very many friends and was hoping to have more come and invited him but maybe I was thinking of him as more than he really is and was just looking for more 'friends' to invite. Meanwhile now a few ppl I was NOT inviting have voiced how much they'd love to see me get married and that means so much to hear. I'll be so pissed if ppl don't RSVP and I could have had the ppl who actually care. Ugh.. sometimes I don't think things through logically.
jaycee
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Will it stress you out more to invite him and worry that he won't show, or not invite him and worry that he'll be upset? It's weird that he asked you to send his invitation to a friend's address... maybe he'll move before you send the invitations and your invitation will just never reach him, whoops! ;)
StarIzInkd
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yeahh... def upset me way way more if I invite him and he doesn't show. If I wouldn't be upset by that, I'd totally just invite him. :/ Ackk...
Lguido
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If you don't want him at the wedding then don't invite him. I sent a std to a couple that I'm not inviting..
Vilardi82
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Normally I would say u have to but if something changes from now until the wedding and you have to do what you have to do.
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Posted by jaycee
Will it stress you out more to invite him and worry that he won't show, or not invite him and worry that he'll be upset? It's weird that he asked you to send his invitation to a friend's address... maybe he'll move before you send the invitations and your invitation will just never reach him, whoops! ;)
