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Can I really write this?

PegaLega Posted:

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I think its well stated-Good Luck!

patticakes Posted:

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Well said!!!

daniebc16 Posted:

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I think that is fine, you are being extremely mature in your speech, if she gets mad about it, then you know you have done all you can. GOOD LUCK!!

giggles62 Posted:

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Well said & well written. I would not change a thing. Good luck and keep us posted.

AllJoy Posted:

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I think its great. If I was writing it, I wouldn't ask her again in the beginning if she's still buything that gown. Thats just my opinion. Good luck!

carolinebr Posted:

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I think you're right. I'm going to cut the line about the gown. I don't want it to seem like I am asking for money, b/c really I'm not. But it may come across that way...


N.Y.bride Posted:

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I basically told my MIL that my mom was paying for her friends that she wanted invited so my MIL said thats fair I will do that too. Can you tell your mom your MIL is paying for her friends b/c you cant afford it?

I agree though I didnt like the fact that I met people at my wedding for the first time.
jennd311 Posted:

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very very well said. good luck!

sunflower13 Posted:

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sounds great good luck let us know how it goes.

utwo16 Posted:

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Posted by perfectpair

it states your concerns in a graceful manner


i agree
carolinebr Posted:

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Posted by N.Y.bride

I basically told my MIL that my mom was paying for her friends that she wanted invited so my MIL said thats fair I will do that too. Can you tell your mom your MIL is paying for her friends b/c you cant afford it?

I agree though I didnt like the fact that I met people at my wedding for the first time.



My future in laws aren't inviting ANY friends. They have been so wonderful about the guest list. I feel badly b/c my mother doesn't really have any family coming. But I am reading Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette book right now and it says this:

'This is not the time for parents to insist on reciprocity for all the gifts they've given and weddings they've attended in the past, nor does your wedding need to be the occasion for them to fulfill their own social obligations.'

Do I just photocopy that & mail it to her?
lipglossjunky73 Posted:

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I think you wrote that very well!!! She wont be happy, but you definitely are showing that you are the mature one!

Chrissywish Posted:

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I think you worded it perfectly...and it doesn't seem as though you are writing just for this...but just to update on the wedding in general

I also think you handled it in a way that should make her feel like you tried everything and aren't just doing this because dad is paying and she is not!!!!

Good luck keep us posted!!!
CKJ906 Posted:

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I think it's very well said. Good luck

DanNette Posted:

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it is very clear, calm and to the point. Nice job!

HelenZ Posted:

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that is a great letter!! by not being too blunt and getting straight into the real issue (talking about dresses, wedding planning etc.) your coming across as being really polite and it doesn't seem the least bit confrontational- perfectly stated!!!

Good luck!! Don't stress too much!! My sis got married when she was 5 mths pregnant, and I tried to do everything for her b/c I didn't want her stressing out.....your mom should really understand how important it is for you to relax right now. Hope it all works out for you!!
bournebride Posted:

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I think it is beautifully said, good luck!!

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