Can I vent about my mom?

So wednesday night me, my mom, and sis went to a bridal store to try on gowns.

The lady who helped me put a veil on me so i could see 'the complete ensemble'. Then she asked if i planned on wearing a tiara. I said NO,it's not me. Im either going to do a flower or crystal brooch on the side of my hair.

My mom proceeds to tell me that I MUST WEAR A TIARA. HOW WILL ANYONE KNOW IM THE BRIDE (hello??if they dont know im the bride then they shouldn't be at my weading )AND THAT I NEED TO BE A PRINCESS SINCE I DIDNT HAVE A SWEET 16 TO BE ONE (my family has big 10-15k sweet 15 or 16s, i never wanted one!!I dont want to be a princess, i ant to be me as a bride).This went on for 10 minutes. She was putting on Huge miss america tiaras on me!

Im going later on today to look for more dresses and im getting a headache already thinking of her bringing up the subject again.

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Posted by Jess5790

So wednesday night me, my mom, and sis went to a bridal store to try on gowns.

The lady who helped me put a veil on me so i could see 'the complete ensemble'. Then she asked if i planned on wearing a tiara. I said NO,it's not me. Im either going to do a flower or crystal brooch on the side of my hair.

My mom proceeds to tell me that I MUST WEAR A TIARA. HOW WILL ANYONE KNOW IM THE BRIDE (hello??if they dont know im the bride then they shouldn't be at my weading )AND THAT I NEED TO BE A PRINCESS SINCE I DIDNT HAVE A SWEET 16 TO BE ONE (my family has big 10-15k sweet 15 or 16s, i never wanted one!!I dont want to be a princess, i ant to be me as a bride).This went on for 10 minutes. She was putting on Huge miss america tiaras on me!

Im going later on today to look for more dresses and im getting a headache already thinking of her bringing up the subject again.

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Hey DATE TWIN!!!!!
Hang in there, my mom can get like that. I just let her know this is my wedding im doing what i want and feel comfortable in, but also do value her opinon. And have fun tonight!!!!

for the issue with your mom

for the visual on the Miss america pagent tiaras....

I completely understand the position your in!! I never had the sweet 16 either. Same reason ( i didn't want one). My mom wanted me to wear one of those princess gowns, and I refused. Its not me. This wedding process has been full of headaches b/c my mom and I can't agree on one thing. She has her vision and i have mine. Just keep in mind that this is your wedding. Don't sacrifice things b/c she puts up a fight. Do what you want.
fyi, i ended up getting the dress i wanted, its been months and she won't let it go. she calls it an expensive night gown. but i don't care, this is how i invisioned it.
Good Luck!

Make sure you tell your mom she already had a turn to get married! You need to do what makes YOU comfortable!
XOXOXO
Kitty

I dont mean to laugh but its kinda funny ...it cracks me up that she actually told you 'If you dont wear a tiara how will people know you are the bride'...hmmm...maybe you will be the one with the WEDDING DRESS AND VEIL lmao!!! Im sorry that you are going through this, but just remember this is what moms do! Im sure every girl on this site can give you a horror story about their mom...I know I can lol..again im sorry and Im sure shell get over it..good luck

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Posted by mskittynj

Make sure you tell your mom she already had a turn to get married! You need to do what makes YOU comfortable!
XOXOXO
Kitty

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I can't tell you how many times I have wanted to say this to my mom too.

I am sorry about your situation. If you don't want to wear a tiara, then you should not feel pressured to do so, especially to fulfill a need that your mom has.

OOOO! Idea!

Ok so buy the tiara - Even put the thing on when you get your hair trial done but make sure your hair stylist knows you are NOT going to wear it - make sure someone makes mom busy and drop it on the floor and step on it the morning of the wedding! Then pull out your backup hairpiece - the one you bought that you really wanted - and wear that!

Problem SOLVED! Just make sure you go and buy a Wal-Mart Tiara and put a pricey tag on it or something...

I don't like conflict, can ya tell??