Can someone please tell me whats so hard about FH calling his friends!!!

The majority of the people that haven't responded are either fh family or friends. I can't see whats so hard about him picking up the phone and dialing a few numbers. UGGHH, men !!!!!

Tell him he either calls them and finds out what the deal is or you will call them and tell them since they failed to respond in time, their slot has been filled and you are officially revoking their invitation!!!!



See if that inspires him!

Yeah right, lol. At first he said, well whoever hasn't responded, isn't going. Low and behold, FMIL was one that had yet to respond.

He took that back right away.

The bride and groom never call the guests to find out. You have a third party person (my MOH/sister made 2 calls for me) a few days before I needed to hand in my final totals. She basically left a message or said 'I am calling regarding the Jones/Smith wedding. We have not received your response and a total headcount needs to be given to the caterer. If we do not hear from you at 555-555-5555 within 24 hours, we regrettably assume you will not be in attendance on this wonderful day'.


PS - responses will still come in long after your response date since people are lazy

I agree, re: having someone else call. When my sister got married, I called our flaky cousin (who she'll probably need to call for our wedding). There were a couple people on the grooms side, and I think his mother called them. All of them were coming and had forgotten to send their RSVP.

So, for your FH's guests, he should pass this along to an appropriate party. If they are friends, perhaps one of the groomsmen can call.

I don't know what it is, but I think most men just don't understand the importance of things like this. My FH is sitting on a bar mitzvah invitation RSVP (we decided to go a couple weeks ago) for one of his friends. When I asked him why he hadn't responded, he complained that he's been busy! In other respects, he's organized, meets work deadlines, pays bills on time, etc., but social obligations elude him. I love him dearly, but I think this will have to be my job!

Good luck!

men can't deal with em'... but still love em'