Can't take it anymore !! Family Vent

I am really about to lose it.. my family is driving me nutz.. my MOH/Sister is dragging her feet to go dress shopping. I practically begged my mom to have a shower for me.

so now on to today. i asked my mother for addresses 2 weeks ago for my STDs which all have been sent except my family/her friends. I just went over her house.. still doesn't have them... is it so hard to dig up about 10/20 addresses?!!!

I posted a few times about these issues. i had a long talk with my mom about how feel. I get no support from my mother or sister with helping we plan my wedding.. No offter to help.. just grief.

i am sooo hurt that my FMIL and ME are doing most of the planning.. she made comment once asking 'aren't they exicted?'.. it wasn't melicious. she has been so helpful..it kills me that FH family must be thinking/saying why aren't they involved more...

sorry.. just needed to vent.. i feel like a such brat complaining about this.. but i would never think in a million years that they would act this way

i'm off to take a long walk to clear my head.. just to think 8 more months of this.. i though this would be a happy time in my life......

I hope it gets better!!!

I am sorry. I know it can be rough sometimes with families. Most brides have crazy family stories about wedding planning. I know i have mine and I have not been engaged for 3 months.

good luck.

Thanks ... i just want them (sister/Mom) to order their dress.. then i am laying low.. let them think about why i am not around as much

here some hugs, and i really hope they come around and start helping, did you talk to your sis as well.

thanks.. my sister is not very approachable.. she has a short fuse... thinks she knows everything... its always same thing... 'isn't a little early'..or 'when i got married thats not what i did..' helloooo she has been married for 15 years !!! things freaking change!!

sorry i am just sooo steamed right now

Wow, this sounds rather similar to my situation. My mom had off from work due to an injury and I asked for the STD addresses like 800 million times and then my dad sent them. My FH's parents didnt care about anything 'Tell me when to show up' was the extent of our convos.

BUT, then all of sudden, everyone got really involved about 4 months before the wedding. Be patient, its your wedding and your entire life right now, but people will get more excited as you get closer to the date. Try to engage them in things that are fun for them, or important to them. Some parents dont 'understand' the importance of save-the-dates or why you have to buy dresses eons before the date... but they will get increasingly more interested as the dates draw near.

Tough it out, while they may not help in the planning, or may not be passionate about a day of shoe shopping, but there will be stuff that will make them step up to the plate... gl

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Posted by ratherbealeper

Wow, this sounds rather similar to my situation. My mom had off from work due to an injury and I asked for the STD addresses like 800 million times and then my dad sent them. My FH's parents didnt care about anything 'Tell me when to show up' was the extent of our convos.

BUT, then all of sudden, everyone got really involved about 4 months before the wedding. Be patient, its your wedding and your entire life right now, but people will get more excited as you get closer to the date. Try to engage them in things that are fun for them, or important to them. Some parents dont 'understand' the importance of save-the-dates or why you have to buy dresses eons before the date... but they will get increasingly more interested as the dates draw near.

Tough it out, while they may not help in the planning, or may not be passionate about a day of shoe shopping, but there will be stuff that will make them step up to the plate... gl

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yeah but if i were in my mother's shoes wouldn't she feel embarrased that my FMIL is helping sooo much rather than my own mother.. I did try to involve at first...but her response... 'if i have to .. i'll come'. I invited her because i thought she be interested. she claims she has sooo many problems.. well instead of feeling sorry for yourself why don't you involve yourself in something... like your daughter's wedding to get your mind off it...

woa.... sorry once i get started !!

thanks for the advice .. i appreciate the kind words

I know how you feel. my mom doesn't seem interested at all in wedding planning. my grandma does everything, it's nice but I want my mom! I know once she's around she'll love it. hopefully when I see her next month shopping for shoes she'll get happy.

this just shows when you have children be the exact opposite! I am going nuts one day for my daughter. at least my mom isn't the only one who acts like this. maybe some moms are just missing that wedding gene? or something.

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Posted by poisonivy918

I know how you feel. my mom doesn't seem interested at all in wedding planning. my grandma does everything, it's nice but I want my mom! I know once she's around she'll love it. hopefully when I see her next month shopping for shoes she'll get happy.

this just shows when you have children be the exact opposite! I am going nuts one day for my daughter. at least my mom isn't the only one who acts like this. maybe some moms are just missing that wedding gene? or something.

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sorry to hear your going through this too...but glad to hear i'm not alone...

hope they BOTH come around soon

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Posted by shoegal68

I am really about to lose it.. my family is driving me nutz.. my MOH/Sister is dragging her feet to go dress shopping. I practically begged my mom to have a shower for me.

so now on to today. i asked my mother for addresses 2 weeks ago for my STDs which all have been sent except my family/her friends. I just went over her house.. still doesn't have them... is it so hard to dig up about 10/20 addresses?!!!

I posted a few times about these issues. i had a long talk with my mom about how feel. I get no support from my mother or sister with helping we plan my wedding.. No offter to help.. just grief.

i am sooo hurt that my FMIL and ME are doing most of the planning.. she made comment once asking 'aren't they exicted?'.. it wasn't melicious. she has been so helpful..it kills me that FH family must be thinking/saying why aren't they involved more...

sorry.. just needed to vent.. i feel like a such brat complaining about this.. but i would never think in a million years that they would act this way

i'm off to take a long walk to clear my head.. just to think 8 more months of this.. i though this would be a happy time in my life......

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I can relate. I am going thru this too.My mom is somewhat interested and then not. My FIL's are so great. they already started helping us out and make suggestions and celebrate us and life. My mom is another story. I look at it this way.. Its my wedding and while I want my mom to be happy for me and excited about the little things shes not. Thats my reality and I do not have any expectations that it would be any other way. I am sorry you have to go thru this and that you feel like shes not helping you. Is there anyone else that would have these addresses? Maybe ask them. Dont worry she will come around. If you want to talk feel free to FM me.

thanks everyone... i just never in my wildest dreams expect my mom & sister to act this way..i always looked forward to planning my wedding with them

i did some thinking... going to just accept people for who they are even if they happen to be own family...

yes, my FH is great to my parents... so i have no clue whats up with them

thanks for listening...

people get weird about weddings. I don't know why. I wish everyone could just be happy for one another

Thanks! i will take everyone's advice... its funny when me & FMIL meet some vendors ... most mistake her for my mother... and their like wow that's a first. LOL..

i guess i should count my blessings that i get along with her so well.

Thank God for this board ... not many people can relate to what i am going through!

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